Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 19 of 24

Good Morning this cold and windy day :) Are y'all ready for Spring? I know I am..... Well, today is going to be a great day and all that happens will happen for a reason AMEN!!

I have a question for you..... Do you and your MAN have a date night? If not try to start having one! I LOVE Tuesdays, why? It's the day I get to go out with just me and my Man that evening!!! My challenge for you is: If you don't have a wkly date with your husband start planning a special evening each wk, start off at home, sending the kids to the sitters for a few hours. Then eventually make it where the sitter comes to your home and you go out!

Today's lesson isn't even about having weekly dates, but I wanted to include that for all you wonderful couples out there!

Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste...."
*We aged women are to teach the young women to be Chaste: pure in thought, word, and act, and to be modest and honorable in all things."
(I'm only putting a few parts of this passage here be sure to read the whole passage here) I Peter 3:1-6 "...While they behold your chaste conversation...let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair...even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price...."

What do you think it meant to chaste in conversation? Well, I'm no well known scholar, but I would think that we need to be careful of
our conversation. We dont' want to be a gossip, or telling others about things that they don't need know AND that you don't need to discus with them. The word chaste also means pure and in the Bible another time is used as clear. Philippians 4:8, James 3;17 will give more on this.

How do you think God wants our outward appearance to be?  "...not be that outward adorning...."  God wants us to dress modestly and look our best outwardly.  Now, don't you think that you husband would want the same. Your husband should not only be able to say my wife is decent but when he and others see you, YOU LOOK decent! Now this part of the lesson maybe a little touchy and I won't go into great detail.
I told a young lady who recently graduated from our school who had a question about convictions this: "You grew up believing and obeying your Parents conviction, BUT the conviction on clothing and other things needs to become your own." I also told her, "You know that the way you were raised is what God would want, and as the mother of your friend, you should keep the Bibles convictions as your own." 
When you are asked, "What is your conviction on _________________?" Do you say, "My parents or well my  conviction is _______"   You know when you married your Man he wanted to be PROUD of the way you look. I've been married almost 19 yrs and I will on occasion ask, "Bill, are you proud of the way I look?" Now that's a rather pointed question, but He Knows I want to look the best I can for him. Recently he mentioned he'd like it if I could lose a little weight, he wasn't calling me fat, he just thinks I'd be happier and healthier if I lost a few lbs. Well, guess what I'm working on. Now please as you read this don't think, she's miss perfect doing everything her husband wants..... TRUST me there are times I dont' want to do as he ask, and sadly I must say, I mess up and don't always do as he ask. I AM HUMAN just as you are!!! So going back to the conviction, I don't wear pants, and I know many who don't why don't I/others not wear pants. One the Bible clearly teaches that woman isn't to wear the apparel of man. Deuteronomy 22:5 says, "The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God."  I mentioned doing as my husband ask, one of the things while we were dating was he asked if I would lengthen my skirts, now they weren't mini skirts by no means, but he wanted them a little longer. It took some getting use to but I did it. Why I was in Love Bill III and I wanted to please him even before we were married. We could really go into depth on this subject, at this time though I won't. If you have questions on this please feel free to e-mail me from my blog.

*Discreet; careful, considerate, watchful.
*Chaste: pure in thought, word and act; modest honorable.

Meek and Quiet Spirit.... Wow this is really hard for some to be meek and quiet. I can be quiet NO problems, but meek?! Well.....
I'm going to recommend a book here titled "The Meek and Quiet Spirit" By Cindy Hyles Schaap I LOVE her book and have read many times. 
Meek means, Of gently and longsuffering disposition; submissive; compliant.
If you were to ask my husband he would tell you I'm gentle, submissive and usually compliant. Longsuffering I'm working on :) But then I love the kids song that defiantly applies to me. "He still workin on me, to make me what I ought to be. It took just a wk to make the moon and stars, Jupiter and mars, BUT he's still working on me!"  As a Christian, wife, mom, teacher I have alot of work that needs to be done. I mean just yesterday no one would of said I have a meek and quiet spirit. I was frustrated with my computer, the kids well.... they were being boys. Hubby had to work late, I was tired, frustrated and yes even mad a few times. BUT I cared for it and tried to be a meek and quiet spirit through out the day. I'm not perfect and it took a lot of work, Much Prayer and a lot of biting my tongue yesterday.
All that to say, we are a work in progress and our Meek and Quiet Spirit will take some work.

*Chaste: The appearance of a Good Help Meet
Think with me on moment about the last time you went to church. In your mind's eye, scan the room and reflect on how the women, including yourself, were dressed. Now read what God says in I Timothy 2:9-15.

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 18 of 24

OH man computer problems are being a major problem here today. I had to borrow my sons computer and plug into the Internet. If I went into detail all that has happened as far as computers I would never get to the lesson. Let's just say for some reason Satan isn't wanting this lesson to be posted.....

Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet...."
*To be discreet - Prudent; wise in avoiding error and in selecting the best means to accomplish a purpose: circumspect; courteous, polite, honest dealings.

What we've learned thus far from these verses:
1. sober -the practical side of marriage
2. to love you husband - the sexual side
3. to love your children - to be instant in season and out of season.

Next is to be discreet, it's also translated as, taste, behaviour and judgement. *Discretion, therefore is, having good taste...good judgement...useful...to be of good understanding.
Proverbs 11:22 "As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion"

Are you courteous (considerate of others)?
Make sure that as you go about in your daily duties, chores, comings and goings that you are courteous to others. You want others to be courteous such as your husband, children etc.
*When you are discreet, wise, and kind in your dealings with other people, you will reap the benefits throughout life.
*A discreet person is one who handles another person's resources with grave carefulness and honestly.

Seek to be honest (discretion is good judgement)
Proverbs 11:22 "As a jewel of hold is a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion"
I Peter 3:4,8 ""...even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price...Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous"

Seek to be gracious (discretion is good taste)
Proverbs 11:16 "A gracious woman retaineth honour."
*You have forgotten the pleasure of having a man do something special for you.

Lack of Judgement
Proverbs 14:1 "Everywise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.:
*A wise woman doesn't attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions will be sincere inquires concerning his will."

12 things that will tear down your house: (*all 12 things are from the book I've been using)
1. Do you feel comfortable spending that much money buying that ______________?
2. Honey, I need to ask you something very important that really tears me up inside. Doesn't this activity you are engaging in grieve your spirit?
3. Why don't you ever want to go with me to ________________?
4. Are you sure God wants you to work at that job and be away from us all the time?
5. Before we were married, you read your Bible or at least you said you did. Why don't you ever read and teach me and the children?
6. Why don't you spend more time with your sons?
7. Do you ever think of just loving me in the spiritual way instead of always the carnal? I am so hungry for some deep spiritual understanding and communication.
8. Sweetheart, why won't you have devotions with us? We want you to lead us in prayer and help us grow spiritually. The Bible says you are our spiritual leader; why, why will you not lead?
9. Why do you think the pastor said that about _____________? Don't you think it was cruel? Sometimes I wonder if we should go to church somewhere else.
10. Poor _______, it is so sad to see what the preacher's mean words have done to that family. Don't you think we should do something about it, like call and let them know we love them and don't agree with the pastor? Besides, I am so hurt at that pastor myself.
11. Honey, it's church time. You need to get dressed. What! your not going? But you always go to church. Do you think you should let a silly thing like business with ____________ keep you from worship? Besides, you know , the pastor was right, that ____________ was up to no good all along! You have to go to church. What about the children? You'll be a bad influence on them. Don't you care?
12. ________, I want you to know that without your close loving friendship, which I turn to every day, I would never be able to get through this loveless marriage. He is so cold and distant. He doesn't care about the children. I don't know how I could have been so deceived into thinking he was a fine, Christian man when I married him. Will you ask the girls to pray for him this week at our women's meeting?

Do you go around saying things like this to your husband, friends, or children???
Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law."

Being a good Help Meet:
1. A good help meet grows in a grace and knowledge.
2. She is gracious and honest.
3. She is without guile toward her husband.

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

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Well, I was expecting to be able to sit down at the computer today, but praise the Lord everyone seems to be doing much better. We were all in Church this morning first time in 2 mo the whole Seavey crew has been in church together. It was a wonderful thing!! Now to our next lesson:

Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children...."  
Yes, part of being the right kind of Help Meet is loving our children. They are a big part of our lives. It doesn't matter if you have 1 or 10 (yes I know families with even more than 10). Because we have children, *the most important thing a mother will do for her children is to create an atmosphere of peace and joy by deeply loving their Daddy and being satisfied with life.
Are you making that kind of home for your children? Or do you complain about what you don't have, what your husband doesn't do? OR Do you  praise and raise Daddy up before the kids? It will and does make a difference!!
If your children were asked the following questions how would they answer?
1. Is your home happy?
2. What one thing would you like to see changed in your home that would make you a happier person?
To pretty strong questions, however think about how your son or daughter would answer.

Does you Son or Daughter want to be like you?
Are you the kind of parent that your little one says, "I want to be just like mommy or daddy?"
There is so much I could touch on here, however I'm just giving things we should think about and work on through prayer and Bible reading to change or make better.

*God has honored the mother wit the position of being the constant trainer of her young children.
Proverbs 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

What are some ways we train? How to pedal bike, make their bed, pick up their toys after playing, how to cook, read, teaching them how to respect their elders and others as well as other peoples things, plus so much more. If you truly love your children you find training them a joy not a chore!
*The woman who invests in a child's life will be the one the child loves and with whom the child bonds.
Isaiah 28:9-10 "Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts. For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept: line upon line, line upon line: here a little, and there a little."
Are you teaching your children or do they just go through life not really knowing anything. Do they feel dumb or smart?

*The woman who invests herself in a child's life will be the one whom the child loves and the one with whom he will bond when he is older. Have you/are you investing in your child(rens) lives? III John 1:4 "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth."

Hears a new habit for you to form:
*Look into your child's eyes and smile many times each day. Take a 5 min break every thirty minutes or so to just play with him or her. Never work alone; always have your "little buddy" helping you.

Proverbs 13:24 "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."
Proverbs 22:15 "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."
Proverbs 29:15 "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."

Be sure to train your child in the right way. Love him, care for him.

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 16 of 24

Good Morning! Lets be the Help Meet we were meant to be today!

Titus 2:4 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands...."
Love your husband, well I would think that for each of us as wives that we would love our husbands but would you believe that there are women out there who think that he's to love me I don't have to love him?! Scary thought.

So what do loving your husband mean? It simply means that we put His needs ahead of our own. Did you know that your "ministry" is to your husband and children? *Everyday and every night we need to be ready to minister to His needs.
*God's ultimate Goal is for you to meet your Mans needs.
Ephesians 5:31-32 "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, an they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church."

> God's ultimate goal for you is to meet your man's needs
>God's original intention was that a woman would spend her life helping her husband fulfill his dreams and ambitions.
> From the beginning, God meant fr us to be a comfort, a blessing, a reward, a friend, an encouragement, and a right hand woman.

I have a few questions for you here:
1. What can I do to help, __________ (your husbands name)?
2. What should my next project be for _____________?
3. __________, what would you like for me to do now?
This is where you are helping him, being an encouragement by asking to help, being a blessing....

*When a woman is not interested in his most consuming passion, he feels that she is not interested in him.
In Eph 5:31 it says "...they two shall be one flesh." This is where you and your husband become one. The special time the two of you share together. Do you push him aside? Use the day old excuse, "I have a headache." or "I'm really to tired." Did you know you are pushing your Man away to another woman each time you neglect him in the bedroom. Until one day you wake up and you wonder why didn't he come home last night? *Your disinterest in him sexually is a reflection of your heart, and he knows it.
*If a wife does not meet his intimacy and sexual needs, she is a help-not-meet, a helper not suitable to the task for which God created her.
None of us what to be in the help-not-meet but rather in the HELP MEET realm.

*Marriage means becoming one flesh. It does not mean being best friends.
*When you truly love and reverence your husband, the very thought of him loving the likes of you should thrill your soul and make you long to cause him pleasure.
We mentioned earlier that your ministry is your husband. Did you ever consider you intamint life as being a ministry to him. You are fulfilling his needs and making him feel important to you!! That you truly love him and want to be his help meet.
Song of Solomon 3:4 "...I found him whom my soul loveth; I held him, and would not let him go...."

To Love their husbands!!!
*A good help meet glories in answering her husbands needs.
* She learns to know his needs before he is aware he has them.
*She empties her mind of the cares of the world so her body can respond to him with eagerness.

Lets make a new Habit.... make a list of personal plans of how you are going to love your husband be sure you come up with lots of bright ideas. I would suggest at least one special date a wk.

**Several reasons why you should LOVE and be Sexy for your husband:
1. It's fun
2. It's healthy
3. It provokes him to appreciate you.
4. He'll feel good about himself
5. It mellows out you
6. It's a safeguard for your husband against the women of the world
7. It's good for the Children to know their mom and dad love each other.
8. It's of God
9. It makes sweet babies :)

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
**parts of that section was taken from the above mentioned book.

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Good Morning, Today we"ll start Part 2 of our lessons.
Titus 2:4: "That they may teach the young women to be sober...."
*To be sober: To do one's duty, be moderate, self controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
Isaiah 33:6 "And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation; the fear of the Lord is his treasure"

What does this mean to be a sober wife? First off it's that you realize that you are no longer single, that you can't live and do as a single girl would do. Second, you realize that marriage is joyful and that it holds many responsibilities. Once you are married you make a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of your home.

*When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet.
*A sober wife is one who considers her options, makes her plans, and follows through in order to avoid the confusion of mismanagement.

You can simplify things in many ways:
1. Offer one item at breakfast and don't allow a picky child to get what they want.
2. Have a plan for lunch and dinner. Everyone eats the same. Don't fix one meal for this person and another for someone else. You will be frazzled and frustrated if you all the children to rule and not eat what mom prepares.

The traits of a Good Help Meet:
1. A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
2. She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
3. She plans and prepares well ahead of time.
4. She exercises self discipline.

*Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your life's work and have missed God's perfect plan.

"A wise woman doesn't let little things stir

her spirit to agitation. With a quiet and meek

spirit, she seeks to make all things better."

Proverbs 12:4 "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones."

How can you be a crown to your husband? What are somethings you can do to "crown" your husband?

Here's a few suggestions for you to be a Good Wife today and a crown to your husband:

1. Have dinner ready when he comes in from work.

2. Prepare yourself. Look nice when he comes in. Don't smell like you've been working out, have your hair fixed nice and look like his bride!

3. Clear away the clutter. Don't set down to a dinner table cluttered with junk. Have the living room, bedroom de-cluttered.

4. Prepare the children. Yes I said prepare the children, they should be excited that daddy is coming home. Have them ready to sit down and eat without having a lot of confusion.

5. Minimize the noise. TURN OFF the TV, turn OFF the video games, when hubby/daddy walks through the door let him come into a calm home. Greet him with hugs from the children and a Kiss from you!

*Do you think God could have used Mary for the mother of Jesus if she had allowed herself to become an emotional wreck when her environment was not clean or orderly?

Philippians 2:5 "Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus"

*Mountain Ma and Pa

by Rebekah Pearl (age 16) April 1991

O, so much ter do,

So much ter be done.

The work's never through,

An' da work ain't much fun,

No thanks fer yer labor,

No pay fer da job,

Jest, "What's fer supper?"

"How 'bout corn-on-da-cob?"

Ya mop an' ya sweep,

Ya dust an' ya shine.

Then turn around,k

An' what do ya find?

His shoes on da floor,

His coat on da chair,

His rear in da couch,

An' his feet in da air!

So ya kick off yer shoes,

An' ya throw down yer broom.

An' ya wink at yer ole man,

So he'll make ya some room!

This is why my Ma and Pa are happily married!

Are you any of these: These are words that God uses to describe a godless woman. Get your concordance out write these words on a separate piece of paper and look them up. If you are any of these you need to start working on being the opposite of them.

*Foolish *Brawling *Without discretion

*Clamorous *Contentious *Wanders from house to house

*Simple *Angry *Stubborn

*Knoweth nothing *Odious *Loud

*Like a swine (fat pig) with a gold nose jewel *Tattler *Busybodies

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"                                          

Titus 2 which will be Part 2 to, Being the Help Meet you were meant to be.

Good Afternoon, sorry this is being posted late today, I have been sick. Prayerfully I can get this done without having any interruptions.

This little intro will take us into Part 2 of the lessons. Then on tomorrow we will start lesson 15 on Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. Part 2 will be taken from Titus 2

Titus 2:3-5 says, "The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"

Do you know the 8 things God requires of a woman? I will honest with you I didn't  know all 8 as far when I first started reading Mrs Debi Pearls book. So as we start into part 2 of these lessons we will learn together the 8 things we as women are suppose to do. Did you realize that if we don't obey these 8 things we will be guilty of blaspheming God words?! WOW!!!

In Mrs Pearls book she calls them the 8 practical game rules. In Mark 3:29 we are told, "But he that shall blaspheme against the Holy Ghost hath never forgiveness, but is in danger of eternal damnation." WOW!!
I do believe I want to make sure I never blaspheme the Holy Spirit or God's Word. The word alone sounds pretty bad.

Lets look at the verses in Titus 2:3-5 in these verse it gives us the 8 things and they are:
"...[1] to be sober [2] to love their husbands [3] to love their children [4] to be discreet, [5] chaste, [6] keepers at home [7] good, [8] obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"

*the passage says there are-not of blaspheming the Holy Ghost, which is the unpardonable sin-rather, of blaspheming the word of God. Even though it is not the unpardonable sin, it sure is a scary thing for Paul to say about young wives.

As I look over these 8 things I wonder: "Why are these 8 things so critical?" "Why is it that a  young wife who may refuse to do them would be considered blaspheming?"
As we start tomorrow on this part of the lessons we will learn the why each part is so critical and why we as wives MUST do each of these 8 things.

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

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Good Morning friends. I pray that you are seeing changes in not only your own life but in the relationship with you and your husband. Are you being the right kind of Help Meet? Have you taken the Challenge to heart that was given in an earlier lesson?

Today we are looking at the Kings and Kingdoms. *A wise woman always receives her husband's overtures with delight no matter how clumsy he may be.  When our husbands receive Praise or Honor we should be delighted no matter what. This can be hard especially since you live with him, you know how he is. In Hosea 4:6 it says, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children."  With the culture the way it is today where it opposes God in almost all public schools and where women have tainted so many area's and even some of our best Christian Schools. We need to heed Hosea 4:6

Why do we as women feel that will lose some our self-respect if they surrender to man? It's due to the worlds thinking. We are taught though that an obedient woman, and a submissive woman is what we are to be. This is why so many families have problems in with the husband and wife. The wife feels she should be the leader, the husband wants to be the leader but tires of fighting the wife. As a wife we are to be submissive to our husband. *Reverence is not just how you act; it how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language. Do you really think it's enough to serve your husband; your eyes and the way you swing your body, arms, or hands tell if you your happy to serve him or the attitude of "alright if I must."
Remember the saying, 'Your walk talks, and your talk talks, but your walk talks louder than your talk talks."
There's A LOT of truth there.

Did you know you can't fool your husband. He knows your heart and maybe better than you do. *Deference to your man is the height of true femininity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious and lovely to all.

Proverbs 9:13 "A foolish woman is clamorous; she is simple, and knoweth nothing" Are  you this type of woman? Do you clamor at the thought of having to be your husbands Help Meet?
Proverbs 14:1 "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands"
Are you a wise woman? building up your house, your husband, your children?
OR are you the foolish woman who tears down her house, her husband and her children?
The Help Meet who wants to be the BEST she can be will work and strive to be the Wise woman who buildeth her house!

*The very heart of reverence is extreme appreciation and profound thankfulness that this man, just as he is, has chosen to love me, just as I am. If your husband loves you as you are, then why can't you love him as he is?! Stop and think a minute ladies.... You are human, Your husband is Human! You have a sin nature, Your Husband has a sin nature! You stumble at times, your husband stumbles at times! So why do we have a hard time Loving Him For Who He Is?? Did you realize that Your husband will you *many, many faults as long as he knows that you think he is great.

So what have we learned thus far?
* God created us to be Help Meets.
* A Help Meet is one who helps others.
* Joy comes from a Thankful heart
* Thankfulness is from being content with God's will
* A woman is to be submissive and yielding!
* In order to know God's blessings is to honor the chain of command God has for us.
* As the wife we are a picture of the Bride of Christ This is the great mystery
* Our obedience isn't dependent on how our husband obeys God
* We are to reverence our husbands.

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 13 of 24

Wow in reading this chapter of Debi's book and making my own notes I had not realized out of 12 mysteries in the Bible that only one was Great and then to learn which one is Great was even more interesting!
Ephesians 5:32-33 "This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church....
and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
Mystery is defined as; something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being above human intelligence. An enigma; anything artfully made difficult."

*A wise woman understands that her husband's need to be honored is not based on his performance, but on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God's Will for her life.

WOW!!! That is a lot for us as wives to know and do! I'm human just as the rest of you and trust me no matter how much I try it's not always easy to be enthusiastic about his plans. However, I am saved, and I do know that, that is what God wants so I do best. Sometimes the enthusiasm is because God says we're suppose. Which I will say is fine especially if you are just learning to be the Help Meet you are meant to be.

**Jesus wants us for a friend. As I was reading the things Jesus wants goes RIGHT along with what a husband and wife should have! Such as companion, discuss things with, a playmate, someone to laugh and cry with, someone to enjoy life with. Jesus wants a buddy, lover, help meet, someone to share his work with, he like your husband wanted is to be a groom and he wants the church as his bride. This is GREAT Mystery I mentioned earlier.

*He seems to create in me and my relationship to my  husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church throughout eternity.

WOW!!! Look at this Jesus wants from us his Children, the same we as wives are to be and do with our MAN!!! *Knowing tat my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life.
This is completely amazing, wonderful and inspirational. My relationship to Christ is to be the same with my MAN the one I vowed to LOVE, HONOR, OBEY My Husband!!
Looking back at Ephesians 5:32 "This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church...and the wife see the she reverence her husband"
1. Obedience - doing what you know the other person wants
2. Submission - giving your heart over to the other person.
3. Reverence - this is more than  just doing what a man request or demands. It's the act of the woman's will to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.

The above 3 things are acts of your will not on feelings. It's not I'll obey him today because I feel like it. NO
It's a will that we do these things.

Are you ready for this....*God entrusted to a man and his wife the opportunity, as a married couple, to be a living picture of this great mystery!" What an awesome thought!!
God the perfect one, entrusted to you and I, the wife, along with our husband to be a LIVING picture of his GREAT Mystery.

You say ok all this is good, but my husband is unsaved. What do I do then.
I Peter 3:1 "Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives."
*In today's churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives.
A woman wins her husband, by the manner of conversation or way of living before him. We will discuss later how to win your lost husband. If you are reading this and your husband is unsaved just cont to do as this lesson has taught thus far.

Start a New Habit: *Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day. Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally.

There's some exciting and new things in this lesson hope you enjoyed it.
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
**Didn't copy the whole thing word for word but most of it is from Debi's book.

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 12 of 24

Today is my wonderful husbands 50th birthday. We've had so much fun with his party last night, SS this morning and the Bus Rt he drives for church had a party for him also. Praise the Lord I've been married to almost 20 yrs!!

*The only position where you will find real fulfillment as a woman is as a help meet to your husband.
But I would have you know, and the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. I Corinthians 11:3
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Ephesians 5:23

I realize that in today's world for the man to be the head of the home, or his wife is almost unheard of. However, the Bible never changes and God has taught since the beginning of time that man and woman were to marry. In that the husband is the head of the wife. The emphasis that we are looking at here today is that we are not just submitting to men, but that women show, the heavenly pattern of the Son submitting to the Father.

You say but my husband isn't saved. What do I do. God's word is the final authority.Your husband is your Knight in God's protective armor. Maybe his armor seems a bit rusty but the armor is still from God, your safe covering in everything. God tells us to be his Help Meet. We are to submit, obey, and even reverence our husbands.

1. We are part of man. God made woman from the rib of man.
2. Our position to our husbands is the as Christ to the church.

*God tells us WHY our husband is to be the one who rules the home. God explains why it is never his will for the wife to rule.

1. The fall into sin was due to a woman.
2. Curses were placed on the guilty in the fall.

Marriage is made in Heaven
*God has spoken frankly as to why he made us as he did and what our role is to be.
There is to be one man and one woman! I won't go into detail on this because one I'm not a preacher, but we all know the Marriage that is made in Heaven is a MAN and a WOMAN! We as wives are to be our MANS help meet and we are to submit to him, just as God wants him to submit to the Heavenly Father.

*Traits of a Good Help Meet
*She fears God.   Do you?
*She believes God's word as it is Written. Do you?
*She considers her position as a help meet a privileged command. Do You?

I put Do You? after each trait, because I believe if you don't believe or consider one these then you you may have a hard time with the others. We have to follow what the Bible teaches or do as we know 100% not 99%. Do you think you can be the right kind of Help Meet if you only put 90% of yourself into it? Or does it take 100%?

Challenge for this wk: (parts of each of these are taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
Monday: Write 3 things down that you can better in your life for your husband.
Tuesday: List 3 things that you can do that will be help to your husband.
Wednesday: Write down 3 things you can do that will encourage your husband
Thursday: Pick 3 things about your personal appearance that you can change that your husband is sure to like.
Friday: List 3 things you can do in your house to please your husband.
Saturday: Write 3 things that makes your husband feel like THE MAN in your life.
Sunday: Plan 3 things you can say or do in front of others shows you love and respect YOUR husband.

Let's all as wives take time this wk to let our husbands know we love him, respect him, honor him, and above all that you are HIS HELP MEET for LIFE!!!

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

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Good Afternoon. I had intended to do this much earlier today but it's been a pretty busy day. Getting things hubby needed done, completed and then caring for a sick little one and just being wife, mommy, doctor takes alot of your day. Which I'm sure many of you know about :)  Well, our lesson today I've looked over, re wrote, re read, and then looked at again and I believe I now have what the Lord would have me focus on. I'll briefly be on one topic then go into the 2nd half a little bit more.

*Man was created to subdue; woman was created to assist.
I don't know about you, but I'm sure grateful that my husband and I are different. Not only physically, but how we look at things, do things and yes even think! I tell you what I'm sure glad my husband thinks logically on some things. When my emotions start coming into play I need a man to go to who thinks level headed and with logic. Praise the Lord I married a MAN!

Man needs woman and we need to be the BEST Help Meet we can for OUR MAN!!

Now as wives there are actually 2 profiles which one are you?
1. The Jezebel Profile
2. The Virtuous Woman Profile

I Corinthians 11:3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."
1. When we as the woman take the spiritual lead, we step out from under our designated rightful head.
2. When we as the woman take the lead in our marriage, we are assuming the masculine role. Which is wrong for us to do. In doing this we weaken the man.
3. This is the most significant thing.... As a woman if we insist on taking the head role we push our husbands to becoming less responsible and he eventually lets the woman do as she pleases.
4. As a woman if we try to dominate and control things she will become emotionally, and physically exhausted. Why? She is trying to do that which a man should do!!!
These show the Profile of Jezebel.

Now we look at the Virtuous Profile for a woman.
*A virtuous woman is hardworking.
*A virtuous woman is resourceful.

If you notice a woman who's following her husband and letting him be the head of the home as God intended you will find that she is: *confident, hardworking, creative, and resourceful!

Isaiah 55:8 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord" A woman who's spiritual will be that force that he and she both need. As your MANS wife, if you have the right intimate relationship, are fun to be with, an offer spiritual uplifting he and you will benefit. 
So are you the Proverbs 31 wife OR the Jezebel type wife? Each of us NEED to make sure we are the Prov 31 wife. Don't say but I __________________ and whatever excuse you give. Just start this very minute, doing your VERY BEST to be the wife God  intended you to be, the Help Meet God created you to be.

Genesis 3:16 "Thy desire shall be to they husband and he shall rule over thee"
*See the contrast:
Jezebel Profile                                               Virtuous Woman Profile
1. Prophetess                                                1. Help meet
2. Teacher                                                     2. Silent
3. One who pities                                          3. Encourager
4. Religious                                                    4. Prudent worker
5. Controller                                                  5. Submissive

I ask you again which are you? My prayer is that we are the Virtuous Woman Profile doing as the God intended me to as my husbands wife.

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 10 of 24

How do your Reactions define you?

*A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been." She does not see herself as "God's gift to me;" therefore, she is joyful and content in her present circumstances.

Do your react in anger, frustration, even tempered or not at all? Some things we don't need to react to but then there are things we should react to. How do you determine how you will react. I'm going to insert a little personal thought here:

One of my boys has a tendency to over react. Yesterday for example his brothers were playing with 2 Nerf guns and one of them shot him. Well, it didn't hurt but because he felt that he should of never been hit he jumped up and charged at his brother in a rage! This was an unnecessary reaction. However in another situation one of my boys was doing something and a brother came up and just smacked him for no reason. The brother got upset but didn't retaliate he very sternly told him NOT to do that. Now as adults I'm sure you know which one was the better REACTION. 

As adults we react to things in both ways that my boys did. We can over react showing the immature side of us, or we can react in the mature manner.

When you got married you already had your convictions in certain area's Then you may of taken on some of your husbands convictions. Such as when I first met Bill I wore skirts that came 2 in below my knee they were modest, but he preferred 4 in below the knee or longer. OK, my reaction was wow... I'll try that, I will admit it took a little getting use to after all I'm not really all that tall. My conviction on that changed in time and now that is what I wear, and I love it!!!  

*Your reactions break you loose from your social inhibitions and manifest who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level. WOW!!! That hits home right??? Remember the saying, "your walk talks and talk talks but walk talks louder than your talk talks."? Well, this shows through your reactions!!!

*The heart is filled with thoughts, and it is out of that reservoir of thoughts that the mouth speaks words of praise or bitterness.

"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh" Luke 6:45  Do you curse? Do you say things you scream and yell at your kids for saying? You know as a wife you have to change this. As a mother you HAVE to change this. It's not so much I will to stop this but changing your thought life!!

Proverbs 23:7 "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he...."

Matthew 15:19 "For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts...."

Philippians 2:5 "Let this mind be in you, which is also in Christ Jesus"

Romans 12:2 "...transformed by the renewing of your mind...."

God is showing us how we need to think, react, and do as a wife, as our husbands Help Meet!

*Your reactions define who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level!!!!!

*You are what you think and God tells you how to think.

So why don't we do what we know God wants?

Did you know, you ARE what you think? Think truth, think right, then you'll react right! This has nothing to do with the Power of thinking. Stop, Think: *this is the power of the truth as God defines it!!

*No woman will have peace and joy until her mind is filled with goodwill toward her husband.

*Here's a little test:

1. Do you have enough fear of God to not question his word?

2. Do you sometimes feel God is punishing you by telling you to obey your husband?

3. Would you give God excuses like, My husband is mean," or "I am a strong personality, and he is weak?"

4. How would you respond if God gave you directions on how to talk, when not to talk, or how to dress and even wear your hair?

5. Are you comfortable with dismissing the Bible's role for women by saying we live in a different culture?

6. When God says to reverence (meaning, stand in awe of) your husband, do you think that is demanding too much?

7. Will you say, "If God say it, or even suggest it, then that is what I will do"?

Make sure when your walk talks that it's speaking the truth from your heart which would be one of seeking God's wisdom, understanding and appreciating your man, and being a flexible wife!

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet

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Do you put your life into your husbands? Did you know we are to be his comfort, a blessing, rewarding, a friend (best friend), an encouragement even his right-hand wo-man!
If I was to ask you how many of these things did you make sure you did and were through 2010 how many would you say? ALL? 1/2? 1? None? You _____, are his WIFE! You ______, are to be his BEST FRIEND! Yes, as women we have best friends that are girls However the best friend of best friends is to be who? YOUR HUSBAND the man whom you are to be his HELP MEET.

Memories that matter! What kind of memories do you make with your husband? Are they good memories or memories that are hurtful and painful for you and him?!

*God made us women to be help meets!
Did you know that when God created Eve she wasn't to be his partner but his HELP MEET!!! We were created to fulfill the need of our HUSBAND!! We are not partners, marriage isn't a business deal it's Biblical and made of God.

*God is not looking for happy women to make then into help meets for men. He is looking for women willing to be true help meets, so he can fill them full of joy!!
If you aren't' willing to be his Help Meet, as a woman you need to get into God's word and learn how to be the Help Meet God wants you to be. Make Memories with your mate! We need to be the Help Meet we are meant to be. Whey? Because it is so vitally important for our Marriages!!!

I Corinthians 11:8-9 "I will make him an help meet for him." Paul said, "For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man."
Genesis 3:16 "Unto the woman he said...and they desire shall be to thy HUSBAND, and he shall rule over thee."

As the woman of the house make good memories with your hubby! He is YOUR man no other woman has the right to make good memories with him!
One of my favorite things to say is, "2 became 1 through marriage then we became 7 as the Lord gave us 5 children" I know it doesn't really rhyme but that's ok. I'm Bill's Help Meet I'm here with MY MAN and we have lots of wonderful memories.

What memories will you make with your husband in 2011???

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 8 of 24

The boys are working on their Bible verses so I thought I'd work on our next lesson. I pray you're enjoying these thus far.

Today is having the Wisdom to understand your man.
*A wise woman learns to adapt to her husband.

Did you realize there are 3 kinds of men. When I read this chapter in Debi's book I was like, WOW!! But as you and I think of it there are different types of men. They are Mr Command Man, Mr Visionary and Mr Steady. We'll touch a little on each one and how we can have the wisdom needed to understand which one our husband is!

*If you fight his inadequacies, both of you will fail. If you love him and support him with his inadequacies and witA hout taking charge, both of you will succeed and grow.
The Key to understanding your husband: *Wisdom is knowing what you "brought" when you married that man, and learning to adapt to him as he is, not as you want him to be.
*God gives imperfect women to imperfect men so they can be heirs together of the grace of life and become something more together than either one of them would ever be alone.

Now's to look at the different types of men and how you may have the wisdom to know how you should be with him.
*It is very important for you to learn how to make an appeal without challenging his authority.
*God is Dominant -- a sovereign and all powerful God. He is also visionary -- omniscient and desirous of carrying out his plans. And, God is steady -- the same yesterday, and today, and forever, our faithful High Priest. Most men epitomize one of these three aspects of God.

A command Man will walk out leaving his wife, he seems to sufficient to himself. If you are married to a command husband you will need to earn your place in his heart by showing him that you will stand by him. You will be faithful, loyal, and obedient, your husband will see you have his confidence. *A King wants a Queen, which is why a man in command wnats a faithful wife to share his fame and glory.

*His vision is like a man looking from a mountaintop; he sees the destant goal. If your husband is saved or unsaved, when he is treated with Honor and reverence, a good hlep meet will find that her man will be wonderfully protective and supportive.

Now is to look at Mr Visionary, *Learn how to be flexible and learn how to always be loyal to your man. God is a Visionary as seen in his person, The Holy Spirit. A visionary is consumed with a need to communicate with his words, music, writing, voice, art or action. He can seem like a voice crying in the wilderness.
*Greatness is a state of soul, not certain accomplishments.
As the wife you need to learn flexiblity and learn how to always be loyal to your husband!
*It will be your face he looks into to see the marvel of what a great thing he has done. When a man is a visionary person, he needs to know he has HIS woman's support!!!

Mr Steady.... *God is as steady as an eternal rock, caring, providing, and faithful, like a priest - like Jesus Christ! *Your husband's gentleness is not a weakness; it is his strength. Your husband's hesitation is not indecision; it is cautious wisdom. *Let him be the one God made him to be: a still, quiet, thoughtful presence-for you!

Know your Man!!
Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man (a wife also) of understanding will draw it out Proverbs 20:5
*Stop trying to stir him up to anger...
*Let him be the one God made him to be; a still, quiet, thoughtful presence - for you!!

To sum it all up:
1. The wife of Mr Command can ruin her marriage by failing to honor, believe, and reverence her husband authority and rule.
2. The wife of Mr Visionary can run her marriage by failing to follow, believe, and participate as an enthusiast in her husband's dreams and visions.
3. The wife of Mr Steady can ruin her marriage by failing to appriciate, wait on, and be thankful for her husbands pleasant qualities.

A successful wife
1. The wife of Mr Command can heal her marriage by becoming his adoring Queen. Honoring, obeying him (reasonable and unreasonable) She will dress, act, and speak so at to bring honor everywhere she goes.
2. The wife of Mr Visionary can heal her marriage by laying aside her own dreams and aspirations and embracing her role as help meet to her man. Believe in him, and be willing to follow him with joyful participation in the path he's chosen.
3. The wife of Mr Steady can heal her marriage by joyfully realizing what a friend, lover, and companion she has been given, living that gratitude, verbally and actively. Stop trying to change him, he will grow. Then you can willing take up tasks that will fill your time and give your husband joy and satisfaction when he sees her productiveness.

*Keep in mind most men are a little of all three types, but tend to be stronger in one.

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

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Sorry this is being posted late, it's called wonderful Internet problems.... I hope you're enjoying the post and that in some small way it's being a blessing to someone.

We'll on 2 more lessons on Wisdom in our marriage, being a mom and life in general. These are really good lessons and if you are able to get the book will help you as a wife, mom and even friend.

*A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready to hear. She pursues knowledge.

Oh how true the above statements are! I have found when I'm willing to learn, to change, to listen and pursue knowledge my wisdom increases and I things are much better.

Do honor or dis honor your husband? We should not dishonor our husbands. They are meant to be the head of the home and we are to HONOR, an obey them. That is what we promised in our wedding vows.

What did you practice today? Listening? Being willing to change? A learner? Gaining knowledge? Which of these did you do?

*What is God's perfect will for your life? To be a good help meet!!!!
*Make a new habit today! Think of the thing your husband does that irritates you the most. Now say to yourself, "I do not see the whole picture. I don not know what God is doing in my life or my husbands life. My critical attitude is a far graver sin than his bad habits. I am guilty of blaspheming the written Word of God when I do not love and obey my husband. Therefore, I am laying down my campaign against him concerning this issue. And, as far as I am concerned, it is God's business to direct my husband and convict him. I am trusting God."

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"

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Good Morning, I thought while my boys were having a break from their books and enjoying the Wii for a little bit I would start the next lesson. This will cont on with Wisdom, looking at in a different aspect to our marriages and life.

Psalm 111:10 "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom"
Proverbs 9;10 "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom"
Proverbs 1:7 "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of Knowledge"

Notice God mentions "The fear of the Lord" We need heed it, why? God not only said it once but 3 times!! *I feel that if I can cause young wives to be aware that there are consequences to their actions, they may turn to God now and start sowing to the spirit, rather than to the flesh.

*A woman who really knows God will know that true spirituality is obeying God's recorded Word, not cultivating her "spiritual" sensibilities.

Titus 2:3-4 states in part of this verse "...the aged women...teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands...." If you are a young wife you need to pay attention to this, Our elders do know and do have advice for us on how to help our marriages and life. More importantly is they have lived they have learned things. God's word is given to us to live wisely for a reason, to be a godly wife for a reason.

*No woman has ever been happy and fulfilled who neglected to obey God in regard to her role as a help meet.

*He wanted to make her happy, and he was somewhat awed by her other-worldly spiritualism.
Your husband loves you! He wants to do that which will make you happy. Do you encourage that by obeying God OR do you look more to the world??
Are you truly your husbands "helper" OR are you trying to be his conscience. You are to be his help meet and to encourage him and help lift him up, we are not to be his conscience.

Lets make some new habits today:
*When you feel yourself beginning to have a critical spirit, stop, take a deep breath silently ask for wisdom, then think of something that is on your thankful list. This is remolding a habit, and in time, practice makes perfect.

And remember "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of Wisdom"

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 5 of 24

Good Afternoon! I pray that if you are reading each of these post that something somewhere will help in your marriage and that you will possibly order Mrs Debi Pearls book.

Today is about Wisdom in our marriage and life. Do you have enough fear of God not to question his Word? In Titus 2:3-5 We are taught many things, "The aged woman...may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blashemed"

As women we need to be sure we obey our husbands. I love the part of Titus that says to be "keepers at home" we are to be wise in what we do. My husband doesn't expect things to be perfect but he wants a clean home and so do I. As his wife I became a Keeper at home!

If you have to work out of the home you especially need to be wise with your time so you can keep your home. I have had the privilege of being a stay at home mom since my daughter was born in 1991, then we decided I work when my daughter was in her 10th gr yr, which had all 5 of our children in school. After 2 yrs of working I realized that I wasn't being a keeper of the home. I had to make a decision. I had home schooled in the past and after prayer and counseling we decided that in order for me to do what my first priority was I needed to stop working. I will say at first I missed it, but it was the wise decision to make. I again am homeschooling and my home is at it should be. Wisdom was needed in the decision and I believe God helped us in that decision.

As a wife we are to LOVE our husband and children! So now lets see what God's "blueprint" for marriage is.
Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

You know, I've heard people say, NO WAY my husband will not be the head of me!! Did you know this is wrong? Our husbands are to obey the Bible and God and we are to obey God the Bible and our husbands. We are to do this in EVERYTHING! Hard to swallow I know.... If you however have the right kind of relationship with our heavenly Father then we will be able to wisely obey our husbands.

Colossians 3:18 "Wives, submit yourselves unto you husbands, as it is fit in the Lord."
I Corinthians 11:3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ: and the head of the woman is the man: and the head of Christ is God."

*1. God commands wives to submit to their OWN husbands.
2. God informs men that they are the head of the wife.
3. God tells the wives to be subject to their husbands in everything, every decision, every move, every plan, and all everyday affairs.

Hey, trust me these 3 steps are NOT always easy to follow. There are days that you will think there is NO way this may is thinking right. BUT as his wife we are to submit to him, do as he ask, let him be a part of everything, every day!! Hard? Yes, but with God's strength and wisdom you CAN do it!!!

I mentioned wisdom at the very beginning did you know it's not something you earn but rather a gift?! Yep, the Bible tells us in James 1:5 "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men (and women) liberally...." *God gives us wisdom liberally, like a "gift" but first we mus ask for it.

This topic is much more detailed in Debi's book. I hope and pray that in some small way it will help you to see HOW important it is that we have wisdom as wives, that we submit to OUR husband, NOT another man, NOT the one who thinks he has control over you, YOUR HUSBAND that is the ONLY man on this earth that you are married to. He is the one you vowed to Honor, Obey till death do you part.

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

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*Live with Thanksgiving, forgiveness, and joy, and enjoy all your moments as if they were your last.

*Thanksgiving Produces Joy: Open your mouth and begin to thank God for his grace towards you. Thank him for every good thing that he has brought into your life. Thank him, thank him and thank him again. Joy is the result of a thankful heart. A thankful heart is the result of a person who decides to give thanks. So say,

"Thank you, God for...." Put in there whatever you are thankful for, salvation, your husband, your children, your friends, your family, ect.

Are you a jolly playmate? Did you know you have control over somethings. Such as: I Peter 3:7, ...heirs together of the grace of life... Will your husband have that? You as the wife really do have much more control than you know. Do you and your spouse have fun?

*Because I have known such love and closeness with a man, it makes my understanding of and appreciation for God much deeper.

Love can be fun :) Is your husband your playmate? Do you do things together? Ride bikes, go for walks, enjoy a show together, go out on dates? I have been married 19 yrs and I love to go and do things with my husband. I could say, he's my playmate! If you have this mind set you will be just that: *gift, a playmate, his helper.

*You learn that all of life is fun and needs to be shared with our best friend, playmate and lover.
*When a weak sister fulfills her divine purpose of being a true help meet, it brings great glory and joy to God.
*Being grateful and thankful is the key to spiritual victory.

Be sure you are in your Bible daily and praying daily not just so you have the right kind of walk with God but so that you can be, and learn to be the right kind of wife!
Don't worry about others think in any area: Why? It's really between you and God!!!
*Some people would say I am weak and foolish or extremely co-dependent. What people think is nothing compared to what God thinks.

SO: *The message to you is simple. From this day forth, starting right now - TODAY - be the woman who honors, obeys and loves Jesus, by HONORING YOUR HUSBAND!

*taken from Created to be his Help Meet.

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Good morning everyone! I hope you're enjoying these post. Please feel free to comment on them also.

Do you have a Thankful Spirit? The spirit we have whether good or bad can and will affect your marriage! You should have a Thankful Spirit no matter what your situation. Don't be a poor me person but a Thank you Lord for what the Holy Spirit has given.

*A wise woman sets a joyful mood in her home. Through laughter, music, and happy times, she creates a positive attitude in her children. She knows that a lighthearted home relieves her husband of stress.

1. Are you a Poor-Me Attitude?
Proverbs 15:15 says, "All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast"
Don't complain about your family's situation, having this Poor-Me attitude is not healthy. *This downcast, un-thankful attitude is a dishonor to God!

*Discontentment is not a product of circumstances; it is the state of the soul.
Did you know, *Thankful people have a view of life that begins somewhere deep in their souls....

*You can practice joy and thanksgiving, Every day, every right response makes the fingers of your soul find the notes of joy and thanksgiving easier and easier.

As Christians and as wives we really need to work on this joy and thankfulness. You know, as a wife, mother, teacher or whatever your responsibilities are, you need to work on this. Are you a complainer do you use words that are too strong in what you are saying? I don't mean cursing, I mean words like hate, kill, ect.... These words are not good to use all the time. As a wife, mother ect they need to NOT be in your vocabulary it can destroy the joy in your home and it shows in some ways lack of thankfulness.
When you feel that things are not going right SMILE and be Thankful!! God has a reason for all things happening!
Colossians 3:15 teaches, "And let the PEACE of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be you thankful."

Have a Thankful Spirit!!!

Consider this:
*Joy is a fruit of the Spirit. If you are a child of God, joy will be a visible reality in your life.
1. Where does your joy start?
2. Have I been discontent about my lot in life? Am I, on occasion a "POOR-ME" person?
3. Do I verbally show thanksgiving every day?
4. Do I daily remember to thank god for my husband?
5. Would my friends describe me as a joyful, thankful and content?
6. How can I add practicing joy and thanksgiving to my life?
7. Am I willing to lay down my grievance toward my husband for the hope of a heavenly marriage?

If you go to the book of Philippians it teaches us how we can be a woman of God! Phil 4:6 tells us, "be careful for nothing"
When I read be careful for nothing we need to not worry, fret, or add trouble to our lives. Assuming that this will happen, this person will say this or that, or whatever we worry and fret about we DON"T need to do! God gives us the strength we need to be a Woman of God.

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 2 of 24

Good Morning all :) In reading Chapter 2 it speaks of having a Merry Heart that the Joy of the Lord is my strength.
Proverbs 17:22 "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine." The importance of a merry heart will help in our marriages. If your marriage is struggling start rebuilding by recreating the Merry heart in your own life first!

*When he first fell in love with you, you were a sweet little thing, full of laughter and fun.

My question to you is: Do you still have that laughter and are still full of fun?? If your husband was asked how you are today and how you were when you met, what would he say?
So, *Is he still married to the same sweet little thing, have you become a long-faced, sickly complainer?

Prov 15:13 "A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance...."
Did you know when you smile people are more likely to come to you than when you walk around looking mad or upset with the world?!
This applies to your hubby also. If you give him those mischievous grins that are only meant for him he'll want to be with you! How many yrs have you been married and does your hubby want to come home or would he rather be at work???

*Men are highly attracted to smiles. That includes your husband!!

Are you a desperate wife wanting your husband back?? Not that he's left you through divorce but in that he seems to look at other women more than at you.
Song of Solomon 8:6 "...for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath most vehement flame"

Do what you can to let him know that you love him show him through smiles and your winsome personality that won your husband in the first place!! *Never demand that a man love you and cherish you because he ought to. Earn every smile land shared moment.
*God stands with you when you stand by your man.

Psalm 100
"Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all ye lands., Serve the Lord with gladness: come before his presence with singing. Know ye that the Lord he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture. Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name. For the Lord is good; his mercy is everlasting; and his truth endureth to all generations"

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 1 of 24

Good Morning, Twice a yr I have this one book I read that was given to me and this will be my 5th time reading it. You say, what book other than the Bible would you read over an over? Well, it's Called "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl

The first time I read the book, I was thinking there's no way anyone can do all this. WRONG it is possible with the right mind set and not just following this book but the Bible. I thought since I have started reading it again I would share a little each day from the chapter I read which will include scriptures also.

God's Gift : *If God created a special woman, perfectly suited to be your husband's helper, would you be that woman?
Did you know, *"When you are a help meet to your husband, you are a helper to Christ."
Proverbs 18:22 (KJB) Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
Wow! We as wives are a "good thing" can imagine that through all our faults, bad breath and so on and so forth we are a good thing for our husbands! It's true we are!
*A woman trying to function like a man is as ridiculous as a man trying to be like a woman."

Proverbs 31 Who can find a virtuous woman for her price is far above rubies.
We are the ruby God has for the man you are to marry (are married too).
We are the "good thing' in his life!

*Taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

Do it heartily.....

Colossians 3:23 "And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men."

What will you do with this yr? Will you do whatever you please not caring if the Lord is honored or pleased? Will you do to get from God OR will you do for God?

As new Christians we alot of times start off doing for the Lord for what we receive. We should grow though and get to where we do, what we do For God! Yes there are benefits in serving in God but we should want to praise, honor, worship, learn and grow in Christ so we can become more Christ like.

I don't do New Yrs resolutions those are basically meant to be broken. I do however tell the Lord I want to go to the next level. What is the next level in your Christian life you want to improve in 2011?

As you think of this keep in mind that: "...whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, unto the Lord, and not unto men."

Happy New Years!

As we enter the new year why not start it the way we want to finish it.
Start the new yr reading your Bible, Praying, Witnessing to others, attending church and being a good steward of your time. For children obeying your parents, being kind to your siblings, loving others and be a good steward or your time.

Have you read your Bible all the way through? The Bible tells us, Study to shew thyself approved, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed. Make it your goal this yr 2011 to read your Bible all the way through and to study it, to learn and grow in the Lord.

Do you pray daily? Remember we are to pray without ceasing. Have a prayer list and pray for certain things and people daily! If you aren't in the routine of making a list, get one of those pocket size notebooks and starting writing down prayer request leaving a small space to date when the prayer is answered. It's amazing how many prayers you can have answered in a yr.

Soul winning - Did you know we're told to go into the highways and byways seeking for the lost. Do you have a scheduled time that you go and give the gospel to those who have not heard. If you aren't sure when your church goes out, ask your Pastor when the soul-winning times are.

My friends, I prayer is that each of us grow more and grow stronger than we are today 12/31/2010. It would be a shame for us to be in the exact same stage of our Christian growth in a yr. Something would be terribly wrong.

I'll close wishing you Happy New Year and a Blessed New Year!

Merry Christmas

Wanted to wish everyone who reads my blog a Merry Christmas! I pray you enjoy your time with friends and family. May God bless each of you and yours.

Merry Christmas Everyone!!

Which are you growing?

Your mind is your garden, your thoughts are your seeds. You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds.

My sister in law had this in a post I read earlier and I got to thinking about it. Our minds are like gardens, and Yes our thoughts are like seeds. Now, what do we do with those "seeds" thoughts that are in our "garden" mind.

So Your mind is your garden.... II Timothy 2:15 "Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth." and I Timothy 4:15 "Meditate upon these things; give thyself wholly to them; that thy profiting may appear to all."

These verse show us that we use our mind to study and if we study right things we are growing our "garden" to produce "flowers" good thoughts and right things. When we meditate on the Bible and on the preaching we are growing our "garden" to produce those "flowers" that will turn out the good thoughts that is in our mind.

May I ask what do you allow to enter your mind (garden)?
Do you allow garbage? curse words? bad TV shows? gossip? OR Do you allow good things? Christian fellowship? Songs of Christ? If you watch movies those that are made for family and w/out the rock music and foul language.
These are just a few things that we as Christians need to know if we're planting the right or wrong "seed" in our "garden".

Philippians 2:5 "Let this mind be in you, which is Christ Jesus;" With Christmas being here, what are we going to plant in our garden or the garden of others. Are you going to be negative, complain about this and that? OR will you be positive and make those around you glad that they get to spend Christmas with you.

Moms, we are the spirit of the home. Are we planting good in the gardens of our children? So they can plant good in the gardens of their friends.

Dads, you are the head of the home. Are you planting good in your wife's garden so she can plant good in your children's garden?

Just a few thoughts to ponder. "Your mind is your garden, and your thoughts are the seeds. You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds."

To everything there is a season...

Recently I was thinking over the season's and got to thinking we as humans go through "seasons". To everything there is a season, there is a time to play and a time to work. There's a time cry and a time to laugh. We can put so many things in for: There's a time to : ____________. Below are some pictures of fall, and winter. God made the seasons for us to enjoy the changes and the beauty of his creation in various ways.

Then I got to thinking about my children. There was a time they are babies (didn't have time to add all the pictures) Then a time of toddlers and a time for being a child. Then you reach the teen age yrs. I love what my daddy says about teens, "When you turn 13 you put them a box with hole so you can feed them bread and water. When they turn 18 you plug the hole, then at age 20 you let them out and that's when they enter the human race again." LOL God loaned our children to us for us to raise for Him. It's up to us if we actually do it. Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.

Tabitha has reached the young adult stage which as her mother is so hard to believe. One day an although we don't know how long or when she'll get married she's following the steps the time of life.

Praise the Lord he gave us a "time" line.

Birth

Baby

Toddler

Child

Teenager

Young Adult so on and so forth.

He gave us a time to work and a time to play

He gave us a time to cry and a time to laugh

He gave us so much why can't we give him the time of day that he deserves. He gives us air to breath, earth to live on and yet.... What do we give him??

Just a little thought for the day.

Merry Christmas to everyone!

Call unto me....

Oh my goodness.... Oven died Thanksgiving morning BEFORE the turkey was cooked, Bill lost all his over time and on call pay (which is equal to a part time job), 3 vehicles and only 1 works and it's running rough, what more could go on....

But my God shall supply my need....
Jeremiah 33:3 "Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not."

We started praying about these things AND....
Tomorrow we"ll be getting a new stove :D
Within the next mo we'll be getting a new vehicle :D
A man in the church is working on one of the broken down vehicles for very little!
Money for our needs, has been there when we needed it!!
An add blessing, Paul's Nov school bill is PD!!! now we need Dec and 1st semester if PD in full!!!

Ask and shall be given! Call upon the Lord and he'll answer maybe not in our time but he will answer. To top that off we may even have found Tabitha a car which she greatly needs. God is good all the time; all the time God is good!!! Oh almost forgot, our Thanksgiving dinner ended up being one of the best!! I had a Roaster that I hadn't used yet, so since it was meant for Turkey we ended up with one of the best cooked turkeys ever!!! God is good and we had and have so much to be thankful for. So, when the walls are falling in and you wonder why? Stop and ..Call upon the name of the Lord. Go to HIS promises that the Bible is full of and it's Amazing what God can do!

It's Amazing What Praising can do! It's Amazing What God will do through you, for you and yes through others also.

Merry Christmas to ALL!!!

When you think....

Have you had a day where you felt all as falling apart? Where nothing was going right for you, your children, your husband? My former Preacher and my current preacher tells one who feels this way, to go and help someone else. Well, today things just seemed to not go right, my husband was given some bad news at work and it was just like why?

Well, we had 8 families we needed to go see this evening and because we did, Bill and I both came home feeling better about our lives!!! One family wouldn't of had Thanksgiving dinner had we not gone by, one mom needed someone to just listen and because Bill an I went by her home to give them a turkey we were able to help her. I'm not bragging about this, I'm simply saying, we did for others an our troubles all of a sudden weren't nearly as big.

Phil 4:19 "But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus." We, Bill and I, don't know how things will work out for us, but we KNOW God will supply our need!! That's good enough for us, we'll cont to tithe, serve him in our church and help others. God will take care of everything else!!!

John 14:1 "Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me."
As we go through life we shouldn't let things trouble us. After all God gave his ONLY Son for us, and God has EVERYTHING under control. As long as you and I do what God has for us to do our troubles really are in God's hands and he walks hand in hand with us. We need to Thank the Lord for all he's done for us, for what he's given us as his children. So, "Let not your heart be troubled...."

I pray that as the Thanksgiving season approaches that if you feel down, discouraged or troubled, GO and do something for those less fortunate than you.
Happy Thanksgiving All.

Spare not the rod....

Proverbs 13:24 "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."

Today was one of those days, that I'm thinking if I don't apply the board of Education then we're really going to regret it later in life. I don't usually have to discipline my oldest 2 boys often. One of them decided that arguing with mom would be appropriate and that he could even yell at me. Now wait a minute....

The Bible teaches that we are not to spare the rod. In the world today they say we're making murders, and thief's of our children if we spank. Well, I grew up with getting my share of spankings and I didn't turn out bad. I will say there's a difference in abuse and discipline. If you slap your children, kick them, or otherwise hurt them when in anger, then yes it could and in most cases is ABUSE. The hinder most part known as your rear was made to be spanked. The Lord knew we as sinners would need a form of discipline, NOT abuse.

I love Proverbs in the way it teaches that, Children should obey their parents in the Lord. It teaches that receiving instruction is wise. It tells us in other places good men obtain favour with God. One of the scriptures is Proverbs 12:1-2 "Whoso loveth instruction loveth knowledge: but he that hateth reproof is brutish.
A good man obtaineth favour of the Lord: but a man of wicked devices will he condemn."

Here if we raise our children in church, in the Bible and prayer they will learn to LOVE instruction. They will realize that we aren't being mean parents but that we are trying to protect them, to rear them in the Lord.

Proverbs 1:7 it says, "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction." Our children will despise correction if not applied properly. If you're a new parent please read the Bible learn the proper ways to discipline. To those who've been raising children make sure you're doing it the Biblical way.

Be Careful for nothing....

Philippians 4:6-7 "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."

I was talking with a friend, and shared some things with her about some situations. The way that we, or anyone can come through any situation, dealing with our sins, Satan or anything is to, "Be careful for nothing...." What does this mean? I say this because there is so much wrong and bad out in the world that we can't be TO careful. We need to warn our children, grandchildren, friends, family and even those whom we don't know of the evils that are out in the world.

I have a dear friend who does just that through her web site, however in the last several months she's been down due to health issues and hasn't been able to reveal things that we as Christians sometimes miss or ignore. I'm stepping up and sharing something that I believe could be a help to someone. There are movies out there that are absolutely satanic and evil. As a teen I was introduced to some pretty scary things and because of it for about a month I lived not knowing what was happening. Why didn't I understand it, I had never been exposed to witchcraft before I was 18, I had never seen or heard much about how Satan can enter your mind and if let go can destroy you. I was a college student at a Bible College went home for Thanksgiving with another college student and several of our friends. The girls that were Preachers kids (me being one) was mocked because we couldn't/wouldn't go to a theatre. So they brought the evil to the house. Because of that I had some rough days, wks and yes at least a mo. ahead of me. God as my witness I came through some things that some people would probably say, that isn't possible. It is and I know it is. My children to this day do NOT watch things such as, Nightmare on Elm Street, Harry Potter, Twilight and whatever else is out there. I don't want or need Satan interfering with my family. We are a Christian family, trying to live for our Lord serving him and doing what God would have us to do. If we allow Satan to interfere through toys, books and movies we are leading our children in the WRONG direction. I'm not going into any more detail at this time about things but I will say, ANY movie, book, game or even toy that is based on Satan is WRONG!!!! It can and WILL destroy people! This is why I say and the most importantly the Bible says, "Be careful for NOTHING!...." We need to pray, depend, look to and stay away from that which is evil as much as humanly possible.

If you are offended by this, I don't apologize except to say, PLEASE do your homework. Learn what is really out there in the world and what we are letting destroy our families!!

My Son wrote the following:

Caleb came out to me this morning an had written the following:

Verse 1: If there is still people will you go and tell them about the wonderful word. If there is still people then will you go with me to lead them to the altar that they might be saved.

Chorus: So for all you new Christians God has a new mission; for your new mission it is to go and to tell all the other people about Him.

Verse 2: If God has called you, to be a Missionary or a Pastor as long as it is for the Lord, the Lord will provide and he will let that soul nearest Hell be saved.

This came from my 15 yr old just this morning! There's a message there for sure.

Walking hand-n-hand

You know today I took the boys out, we were having a day that was well.... not going so well. After about 30 min out in the woods, walking the train tracts, and exploring an old factory and mill my 2 boys, Samuel and Jason came up and took me by the hand as we walked hand-n-hand down the trail. (Caleb took the picture, which I didn't realize he was doing) When are days are going rough we should grab Jesus by the hand and walk down the trail of life hand-n-hand with Him. The one who loves us, who died for us, who gave us freedom from sin, the one who wants to bless us. What more could we want from our Heavenly Father?

As the boys an I walked down the trail we were laughing and talking about our day. You know we can do the same with Jesus walk and talk with him laughing and smiling about our day, life or whatever!! Psalm 23:3 "He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake." John 15:7 "If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you." All we need to do is take the Lord's hand and he'll lead us down the path of righteousness. All we need to do is abide in Him!

We can walk in God's word, down the path he has provided or we can go astray. Just as the boys and I could stick to the path in the woods or we could of wandered off the path and we don't know what could of happened.

Just as we walked into this one area where it appears a homeless person lives, we but by the Grace of God could be in the same position as the one who lives here. That is why as Christians we NEED to walk hand in hand with our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.
Ephesians 1:3 "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ."

Answering Questions for our Children

Isn't it wonderful that we as parents have the Bible to go when our Children have questions. Today was one of those days where I was/am so grateful for my upbringing and love for the Bible and Church. Our youngest Jason had a little bit of a rough morning his pet hamster died and Praise the Lord I was able to help him through it with Bible reading and prayer.

(This next paragraph is from a Daily Focus I get in my e-mail daily) If you are a child of the king, you also have the same ability to come before your heavenly Father with your request. Hebrews 4:16 tells us, "Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need." Unlike the limitations you face when meeting your child's request, Jesus has the ability to give you everything you need and waits to show you the "exceeding riches of His grace" (Ephesians 2:7) He never gets tired when you ask Him countless questions or even the same question repeatedly. Christ even loves you with an everlasting love and seeks to draw you unto Himself. (Jeremiah 31:3b)

This little section of Daily Focus fit in so perfectly with what I did this morning with my Jason. He asked several times "Why do people and animals have to die?" Jason had never dealt with death till 3 wks ago when his Nana graduated to Heaven. So in 3 wks he's had a lot to think on and try to make sense of.
Aren't you glad that your Heavenly Father doesn't push you aside when you have questions or worries. I didn't push Jason aside today, what we did push aside was the other things planned in our day. School suddenly for us was not of top priority, because I took this hardship my son was going through and used it to talk with Samuel and Caleb also. Caleb was able to help also seeing he's 15 and understands a little about death. When we were done several hours later Jason felt and knew he was loved and that Mom cared enough to take time to help him in a situation he'd never really had to deal with before.
Mom, Dad, Grandma, Grandpa..... Do you take time for those little ones? Do you see their hurt, their worry (yes children worry just because they don't have huge responsibilities doesn't mean they don"t worry) their eyes that question life? Lets not be in such a hurry that we think, "Oh they're just children!" That's not true, they are children who need us. They are children, who hurt just like you and I do. Remember, Jesus called the children to come unto him! Why?? He loves them and wants them to know he is there. We need to do the same!

Are you "Hunting for Jesus?"

Just a few questions for us to ponder....
1. Are you "hunting" for Jesus? Seeking to improve you life daily and become More like Him?
2. Are you "hunting" for souls? Do you look for those who are lost and wondering in sin? Do you try to lead them in the right way of Salvation?

No great thoughts for today, just something we all should ponder and look at our hearts and lives to see if we are doing as God would have us do.

For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God....

Go ye into the highways and byways compelling them to come in....

Are you being a "Hunter for Jesus?"

Pray without ceasing....

We need to be praying if you haven't already for our upcoming election! Who will "rule" America next. This past Nov 2nd made some changes, but the greatest change is who will be our President for the next 4 yrs. I personally can't imagine this old world lasting another 4 yrs, but it could.

The Bible tells us to pray without ceasing. We don't have to all day every day be in prayer, but pray faithfully and regularly for our country! IF we turn against God we ARE in trouble. If America turns against Israel WE ARE IN TROUBLE!

My question for you is: Will you pray without ceasing for our Country! God Bless America!