Good Afternoon friends. I pray that today has been a wonderful day for you. For our family it's been a bitter sweet day. If the read the post, from this morning it tells a little about my Mother in law. I'm putting an intro to the up-coming series that will be starting this wk.
I Peter 3:1-4 "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price."
If you notice in I Peter we are told how to help our husbands even how to show them the way to God, if they are unsaved. *We are told how to help them in the area's where they "obey not the word."
We also see how these instructions are for the wife and mother, will NOT help our loved ones,
1. We're going to look at what will NOT help our husbands spiritually:
Be careful what you say, because you don't want to be a nagging wife. All that will do is hurt a marriage and your husband will it as preaching, not helping him out.
2. Our outward appearance will NOT help our husbands spiritually:
Now, first let me say your appearance is important, you should look nice for your husband. *However, styling the hair with a lovely hairstyle and wearing the beautiful clothes and jewelry will do little to help a man grow spiritually. If you are so worried about how you look you will be unloving and unaffectionate and one who doesn't allow her family to "mess up" her appearance.
What WILL help your husband spiritually:
1. Our Chaste conversation WILL help our family spiritually:
What does Chaste mean: Pure from fault, modest or holy.
Conversation means behaviour.
Words won't necessarily help our family but being modest, pure and holy (right) behaviour says alot to a family.
Dr Wendall Evans says, "Your walk talks and talk talks but your walk talks louder than your talk talks.
As mothers we should pray daily that we are the right kind of example for our children. That we are what God wants us to be for our husbands.
2. The "hidden man of the heart" or our spirit WILL help our family spiritually:
a. One spirit is positive or a rejoicing spirit.
How can you be positive or rejoice? One is through scripture memorization, having a daily walk with God and time of prayer daily. This will cause you to have the positive spirit and able to rejoice. Also be careful whom you fellowship with daily. If the people you daily fellowship with are negative maybe you need to make changes in your life.
b. The other is a consistent spirit.
You say, consistent?? YES if we aren't consistent in what we do we show our family that it's not important to always be positive or to always rejoice.
Are you teaching your children or showing your husband inconstintancy?
3. A Meek spirit WILL help our family spiritually:
I Peter chapter three means "gentle or a soothing disposition."
Did you ever think that your gentleness would make your husband great?!
Psalm 18:35b says, '...Thy gentleness hath made me great."
Meek means "even" Did you know as a meek wife and mother you will see all as equal. You are not superior to your children, and your not inferior to your husband. So being a meek (even) wife/mother you are willing to serve them.
4. A Quiet spirit WILL help her family spiritually:
Quiet spirit means tranquillity arising from within, causing no disturbance to others.
How are you when your husband comes in from work?
Meek and Quiet?
Wound and Loud?
Peaceful and calm?
Mad or hard to please?
The word quiet also means no disturbance to others.
You may be quiet in spirit but what do your words say? Do they say things such as:
"I have no rights!"
"Nobody appreciates me."
I wish someone would notice all the work that I do around here."
The book I am taking some of my material from is titled the "A Meek and Quiet Spirit" As I take you through this series of lessons, we will look at the New Testament women. It was written by Mrs Cindy Hyles Schaap.
The meek and quiet spirit is something we ALWAYS need to work on! So as we start these lessons this next wk lets see what we can change in our homes and how we can better our own spirits so that our family WILL benefit from it!
*taken from a Meek and Quiet Spirit.
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Heaven Sounding Sweeter
Today my mother in law would of been 75, a little over 4 months ago she promoted to heaven. Praise the Lord last Feb on the day after her birthday she accepted Christ as her personal Saviour!! This poem is in memory of her:
This isn't Death
This isn't death, it's glory;
it isn't dark, it's light;
It isn't stumbling, groping,
Or even faith--it's sight.
This isn't grief, it's having
My last tear wiped away;
It's sunrise--the morning
Of my eternal day.
This isn't even praying;
It's speaking face to face,
It's listening and it's glimpsing
The wonders of His grace.
This is the end of all pleading
For strength to bear my Pain
Not even pain's dark memory
Will ever live again.
How did I bear the earth life
Before I came up higher,
Before my soul was granted
Its every deep desire?
Before I knew this rapture
Of meeting face to face
That ONE who sought me, saved me,
And kept me by His grace?
M. S. Nicholson
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Tomorrow
He was going to be all that a mortal could be--
Tomorrow;
No one would be kinder nor braver than he--
Tomorrow;
A friend who was troubled and weary he knew
Who'd be glad of a lift and who needed it, too;
On him he would call and see what he could do--
Tomorrow.
Each morning he stacked up the letters he'd write--
Tomorrow;
And he thought of the folks he would fill with delight--
Tomorrow;
It was too bad, indeed, he was busy today,
And hadn't a minute to stop on his way;
"More time I would have to give others," he'd say--
"Tomorrow."
The greatest of workers this man would have been--
Tomorrow;
The world would have known him had he ever seen--
Tomorrow;
But the fact is he died, and he faded from view,
And all that he left here when living was through
Was a mountain of things he intended to do--
Tomorrow.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Leave Me Not!
Still let Thy wisdom be my guide,
Nor take Thy flight from me away;
Still with me let Thy grace abide,
That I from Thee may never stray,
Let Thy Word richly in me dwell,
Thy peace and love my portion be;
My joy to endure and do Thy will,l
Till perfect I am found in Thee.
J Wesley
Thursday, February 24, 2011
By Faith and Not by Sight
I walk by faith and not by sight,
Why seek along the way for light
Beyond today?
The Saviour holds my feeble hand,
And so I follow His command;
He is my stay.
I need not look beyond to see,
I need not know His way for me
Beyond this hour.
For be His grace His will I'll do,
His gracious Spirit leads me through,
And gives me power.
E. Gray
Why seek along the way for light
Beyond today?
The Saviour holds my feeble hand,
And so I follow His command;
He is my stay.
I need not look beyond to see,
I need not know His way for me
Beyond this hour.
For be His grace His will I'll do,
His gracious Spirit leads me through,
And gives me power.
E. Gray
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
A Quiet Place
'Mid all the traffic of the ways,
Turmoils without, within,
Make in my heart a quiet place,
And come and dwell therein;
A little shrine of quietness,
All sacred to Thyself,
Where Thou shalt all my sould possess,
And I may find myself;
A little shelter from life's a stress,
Where I may lay me prone,
And bare my soul in loneliness,
And know as I am known.
A little place of mystic grace,
Of self and sin swept bare,
Where I may look upon Thy face,
And talk with Thee in prayer.
By J. Oxenham
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
A Happy Day
Today will be a happy day
If, first, you find some time to pray;
If, first, alone you go apart
From worldly things, and in your heart
You make resolve to do your best
And then to God you leave the rest.
For God will take the hate and fear
Of yesterday and yesteryear
And in their place He'll make you feel
The light and love He would reveal;
Yes, this will be a happy day
If, friend, right now you'll stop and pray.
If, first, you find some time to pray;
If, first, alone you go apart
From worldly things, and in your heart
You make resolve to do your best
And then to God you leave the rest.
For God will take the hate and fear
Of yesterday and yesteryear
And in their place He'll make you feel
The light and love He would reveal;
Yes, this will be a happy day
If, friend, right now you'll stop and pray.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Upcoming Topics
Good Morning everyone! How are y'all doing? I pray that your having a wonderful Monday and that the rest of your wk will be GREAT!!!
I have prayed about the upcoming lessons in March and felt the Holy Spirit leading in a different way from what I was going to do. So Instead of being on the Home this next month. I'll be starting a series of Lessons on "Do you have a Meek and Quiet Spirit?"
Some of the materials will come from, Mrs Cindy Hyles Schaaps book. She wrote the book, "A Meek and Quiet Spirit" They are a series of lessons compiled for Wives and Mothers and we'll be looking at Women from the New Testament.
The lessons will start next wk. I'm taking a short break between series, one reason being I hurt my wrist this past wkend and typing can prove interesting with a brace on.
I will be throughout the next wk be Posting a poem or thought each day.
Today's is:
I have prayed about the upcoming lessons in March and felt the Holy Spirit leading in a different way from what I was going to do. So Instead of being on the Home this next month. I'll be starting a series of Lessons on "Do you have a Meek and Quiet Spirit?"
Some of the materials will come from, Mrs Cindy Hyles Schaaps book. She wrote the book, "A Meek and Quiet Spirit" They are a series of lessons compiled for Wives and Mothers and we'll be looking at Women from the New Testament.
The lessons will start next wk. I'm taking a short break between series, one reason being I hurt my wrist this past wkend and typing can prove interesting with a brace on.
I will be throughout the next wk be Posting a poem or thought each day.
Today's is:
YOUR PLACE
Is your place a small place?
Tend it with care!-
He set you there.
Is your place a large place?
Guard it with care!-
He set you there.
Whate'erl your place, it is
Not yours alone, but His
Who set you there.
By J. Oxenham
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 24 of 24
Good Evening! I know this is late, I hurt my wrist at the end of the wk and typing with my brace on is rather difficult. I wanted to get it in today. I pray all of you had a great day in church.
I Peter 3:7"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."
Ephesians 5:33 "...And the wife see that she reverence her husband."
As husband and wife we are heirs together to work together to make our homes the right kind of place. We are created to be his Help Meet, and perfect plan for woman is being the Help Meet he intended us to be when he created us.
The things we have Learned throughout these 24 lessons
Things that can break a man's spirit and cripple your marriage
A wife who is spiritually critical
A discontent wife
A wife who is not fulfilling the 8 priorities listed in Titus 2 for a wife.
8 things that women must do or be avoid blaspheming the written Word of God
Titus 2:3-5
1 sober 2 love their husbands 3. love their children 4 be discreet 5 chaste
6 keepers at home 7 good 8 obedient to their own husbands
Tools of our Glorious Marriage Warfare are:
Joy
Thankfulness
Contentment
Reverence
Submission
Prayer
Believing God's Word
"And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him....the Lord God...brought her unto the man." Genesis 2:18, 22
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord." Proverbs 18:22
How has God changed you?
Go back through the lessons and list that which you have changed and maybe still need to change.
Keep doing the challenges that were given through out.
And remember Always be the Help Meet God intended for you to be.
Win your husband through love, prayer, submission, showing him that you trust him.
May God Bless you as you, "Become the Help Meet you were meant to be!"
*The majority of this lesson is from "Created to be His Help Meet."
I Peter 3:7"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."
Ephesians 5:33 "...And the wife see that she reverence her husband."
As husband and wife we are heirs together to work together to make our homes the right kind of place. We are created to be his Help Meet, and perfect plan for woman is being the Help Meet he intended us to be when he created us.
The things we have Learned throughout these 24 lessons
Things that can break a man's spirit and cripple your marriage
A wife who is spiritually critical
A discontent wife
A wife who is not fulfilling the 8 priorities listed in Titus 2 for a wife.
8 things that women must do or be avoid blaspheming the written Word of God
Titus 2:3-5
1 sober 2 love their husbands 3. love their children 4 be discreet 5 chaste
6 keepers at home 7 good 8 obedient to their own husbands
Tools of our Glorious Marriage Warfare are:
Joy
Thankfulness
Contentment
Reverence
Submission
Prayer
Believing God's Word
"And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him....the Lord God...brought her unto the man." Genesis 2:18, 22
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord." Proverbs 18:22
How has God changed you?
Go back through the lessons and list that which you have changed and maybe still need to change.
Keep doing the challenges that were given through out.
And remember Always be the Help Meet God intended for you to be.
Win your husband through love, prayer, submission, showing him that you trust him.
May God Bless you as you, "Become the Help Meet you were meant to be!"
*The majority of this lesson is from "Created to be His Help Meet."
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 23 of 24
Good Morning, how has the challenges that have been given helped you? I would love to hear from some of you on how these lessons may of helped you.
Here we are on lesson 23 and it's so hard to believe we're about to close it out. I believe that whether these have helped anyone they have been a big help for me. I have not only been writing these for others but for myself.
Here's the next question for you: To obey or NOT to obey?
When should we NOT obey: *The Bible gives us an example of a circumstance under which it is inappropriate for a wife to obey her husband.
Acts 4:1-10 (read before cont with lesson)
*This book would not be complete without addressing the subject of what a woman should do if she knows her husband is breaking the law of God and man, or that his sin may bring imprisonment to her, or that his sinful actions may bring death to her or the children-as in contracting AIDS from him.
So my question is there a time when a wife should NOT obey her husband? *Since this is a doctrinal issue, Debi Pearl asked her husband to to do the next part. When NOT to obey.
*Michael Pearl Contributes
1. All Authority Belongs to God
Acts 5:29 "We ought to obey God rather than men"
2. Spheres of Authority*In those areas where God has delegated someone to be in authority, he has relinquished a certain amount of control to that authority-for better or for worse. God does not micromanage all spheres of authority. He allows certain latitude for the authority to be wrong and still retain the office.
Our entire lives are bound up in a chain of command. We must answer to others, who in turn, must answer to God.
3. Jesus Taught Spheres of Authority:
Matthew 22:15-22 "Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are Caesar's; and unto God the things that are God's"
This simply means that the government has a jurisdiction, and God has his jurisdiction. There is no conflict regarding each it it's sphere or authority.
*The principle would apply to all delegated authority: police, judges, governors, presidents, kings, husbands, churches, and parents over their children.
*The secret is to know from scripture the extent of the jurisdiction God has delegated to each authority.
4. The Husbands Sphere of Authority
Render therefore unto your husband that which is your husband's "...unto God the things that are God's."
Did you realize that God gives husbands a realm of authority that he is given a certain power?
Ecclesiastes 7:20 "For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good and sinneth not."
Ladies, we need remember our husbands are human also! They make mistakes.
Enduring Suffering Wrongfully
Read I Peter 13-23
In these verse it shows how the Bible is clear and where we should submit and obey in what area's (this is a rather lengthy portion of this lesson) If you would like to know more on this please feel free to contact me. Or you may order Mrs Debi Pearls book and ready Chapter 23.
My husband doesn't want me to go church!
Well, you should obey your husband! The Bible doesn't say Thou shalt go to church. We need the Christian fellowship and preaching, but you know you can get the preaching on tapes/CD's now days and the fellowship you choose your friends correctly you can have good Christian fellowship. Now IF you can go, By ALL MEANS be in church!!
*If a wife has an attitude of rebellion, she can find a thousand different exceptions to obedience. But if a woman is really seeking God and asking for wisdom from on high, she will be able to discern the difference between her own controlling spirit and those rare instances that a husband may command outside his sphere of authority-requiring legal intervention.
*To obey him with disappointment and reluctance is not obedience; it is revenge.
This lesson today was a little tough to know what to say. The majority of it came from "Created to Be His Help Meet"
When it comes to this subject, My husband, Praise the Lord, has never asked me to do or not to do something against the Bible and God. So it was hard to put together. I pray in some way though it will be of help to someone.
*Reflecting on To Obey or Not to Obey
Traits of a Good Help Meet:
An obedient wife is yielding, willing and eager to accomplish injunctions or desires, and abstains from that which is forbidden
She looks for ways to obey and reverence her husband
She channels her mind into positive ways of saying, Yes
She never considers herself to be an exception to the rule of being a help meet.
Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law."
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Here we are on lesson 23 and it's so hard to believe we're about to close it out. I believe that whether these have helped anyone they have been a big help for me. I have not only been writing these for others but for myself.
Here's the next question for you: To obey or NOT to obey?
When should we NOT obey: *The Bible gives us an example of a circumstance under which it is inappropriate for a wife to obey her husband.
Acts 4:1-10 (read before cont with lesson)
*This book would not be complete without addressing the subject of what a woman should do if she knows her husband is breaking the law of God and man, or that his sin may bring imprisonment to her, or that his sinful actions may bring death to her or the children-as in contracting AIDS from him.
So my question is there a time when a wife should NOT obey her husband? *Since this is a doctrinal issue, Debi Pearl asked her husband to to do the next part. When NOT to obey.
*Michael Pearl Contributes
1. All Authority Belongs to God
Acts 5:29 "We ought to obey God rather than men"
2. Spheres of Authority*In those areas where God has delegated someone to be in authority, he has relinquished a certain amount of control to that authority-for better or for worse. God does not micromanage all spheres of authority. He allows certain latitude for the authority to be wrong and still retain the office.
Our entire lives are bound up in a chain of command. We must answer to others, who in turn, must answer to God.
3. Jesus Taught Spheres of Authority:
Matthew 22:15-22 "Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are Caesar's; and unto God the things that are God's"
This simply means that the government has a jurisdiction, and God has his jurisdiction. There is no conflict regarding each it it's sphere or authority.
*The principle would apply to all delegated authority: police, judges, governors, presidents, kings, husbands, churches, and parents over their children.
*The secret is to know from scripture the extent of the jurisdiction God has delegated to each authority.
4. The Husbands Sphere of Authority
Render therefore unto your husband that which is your husband's "...unto God the things that are God's."
Did you realize that God gives husbands a realm of authority that he is given a certain power?
Ecclesiastes 7:20 "For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good and sinneth not."
Ladies, we need remember our husbands are human also! They make mistakes.
Enduring Suffering Wrongfully
Read I Peter 13-23
In these verse it shows how the Bible is clear and where we should submit and obey in what area's (this is a rather lengthy portion of this lesson) If you would like to know more on this please feel free to contact me. Or you may order Mrs Debi Pearls book and ready Chapter 23.
My husband doesn't want me to go church!
Well, you should obey your husband! The Bible doesn't say Thou shalt go to church. We need the Christian fellowship and preaching, but you know you can get the preaching on tapes/CD's now days and the fellowship you choose your friends correctly you can have good Christian fellowship. Now IF you can go, By ALL MEANS be in church!!
*If a wife has an attitude of rebellion, she can find a thousand different exceptions to obedience. But if a woman is really seeking God and asking for wisdom from on high, she will be able to discern the difference between her own controlling spirit and those rare instances that a husband may command outside his sphere of authority-requiring legal intervention.
*To obey him with disappointment and reluctance is not obedience; it is revenge.
This lesson today was a little tough to know what to say. The majority of it came from "Created to Be His Help Meet"
When it comes to this subject, My husband, Praise the Lord, has never asked me to do or not to do something against the Bible and God. So it was hard to put together. I pray in some way though it will be of help to someone.
*Reflecting on To Obey or Not to Obey
Traits of a Good Help Meet:
An obedient wife is yielding, willing and eager to accomplish injunctions or desires, and abstains from that which is forbidden
She looks for ways to obey and reverence her husband
She channels her mind into positive ways of saying, Yes
She never considers herself to be an exception to the rule of being a help meet.
Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law."
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Friday, February 18, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 22 of 24
Good Morning! It's absolutely beautiful out and I'll looking forward to opening the windows up again today. I pray each who read this have a Wonderful day and enjoy your 3 day wkend.
Oh my....I can hear some people now, "WHAT?! You want me to obey my husband! Never!!! Well, I think maybe you need to read on and see what the Bible says about this. I will admit it's not always easy be we as the wife should obey our husbands.
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands...."
Obedient : Yielding, willing and eager to accomplish injunctions or desires, abstaining from that which is forbidden.
The aged women are to teach us things such as: "teach the young women to be obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." We're going to review a few verses from previous lessons.
Genesis 3:16 "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee."
As you see it's God's will that we obey our husbands and the woman is to want to give her full attention and interest to her husband. You married this man, you shouldn't want or have interest in other men. I love what our Preacher and my former Pastors have told us, Have friends and have fun times with other couples but don't make it where it's the same couple all the time. It could and has happened where the wife of one couple the husband of the other couple all of sudden lost interest in their own spouse! How sad! You married _________ on whatever your wedding date, NOT your best friends spouse! Be so very careful and keep your interest and attention focused the YOUR man!!!
I Corinthians 11:3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
* I do not submit to any other man as I submit to my husband. There is no pastor or minister higher than my husband.
Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing."
Here's the 2nd time in scripture it tells us to submit (obey) our husbands. In what? '...in every thing." How should we do it? "...as unto the Lord...."
Ephesians 5:33 "Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
Colossians 3:18 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord."
As you see there is verse after verse in the Bible that says we are to obey/submit our husbands.
I Peter 3:1 "Likewise, ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives."
*It wasn't going to church or having a quiet time with God that won him. She won him by responding to him with honor and affection.
If you want to win your husband to the Lord, live the Bible. Don't preach it, don't push to get him church or show off that you have devotions daily. Simply win your husband by being faithful to him, loving him, obeying him, showing him that is the ONLY one for you. The Lord will the rest.
*Honoring God gives a woman power to change her man. Proverbs 31:11 "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil." *(Trustworthy, dependable, worthy of confidence, reliable, honest, deserving) This things will help change your husband and eventually bring him to Christ.
Proverbs 31:12 "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. *(Constant in her love, unshaken, unmoved, faithful, ceaseless, enduring, unchanging, loyal, permanent)
*You CANNOT become his conscience or his accuser, expecting that pressure is going to push him into repentance.
"Finally brethern, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
You may ask do I really make a difference? YES!! We make such a huge difference in our husbands lives. If you think about how many men really like doing dishes, laundry, cleaning the house, vacuuming..... You make a difference not only in the daily task but in his life in general. So this is why we NEED to obey/submit to our husbands.
There is so much more I could cover on this topic. If you are interested in more about obeying our husbands....feel free to contact me. Or you can purchase the book that I have used as part of my sources for the devo's.
*taken from "Created to Be His Help Meet"
Oh my....I can hear some people now, "WHAT?! You want me to obey my husband! Never!!! Well, I think maybe you need to read on and see what the Bible says about this. I will admit it's not always easy be we as the wife should obey our husbands.
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands...."
Obedient : Yielding, willing and eager to accomplish injunctions or desires, abstaining from that which is forbidden.
The aged women are to teach us things such as: "teach the young women to be obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." We're going to review a few verses from previous lessons.
Genesis 3:16 "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee."
As you see it's God's will that we obey our husbands and the woman is to want to give her full attention and interest to her husband. You married this man, you shouldn't want or have interest in other men. I love what our Preacher and my former Pastors have told us, Have friends and have fun times with other couples but don't make it where it's the same couple all the time. It could and has happened where the wife of one couple the husband of the other couple all of sudden lost interest in their own spouse! How sad! You married _________ on whatever your wedding date, NOT your best friends spouse! Be so very careful and keep your interest and attention focused the YOUR man!!!
I Corinthians 11:3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
* I do not submit to any other man as I submit to my husband. There is no pastor or minister higher than my husband.
Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing."
Here's the 2nd time in scripture it tells us to submit (obey) our husbands. In what? '...in every thing." How should we do it? "...as unto the Lord...."
Ephesians 5:33 "Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
Colossians 3:18 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord."
As you see there is verse after verse in the Bible that says we are to obey/submit our husbands.
I Peter 3:1 "Likewise, ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives."
*It wasn't going to church or having a quiet time with God that won him. She won him by responding to him with honor and affection.
If you want to win your husband to the Lord, live the Bible. Don't preach it, don't push to get him church or show off that you have devotions daily. Simply win your husband by being faithful to him, loving him, obeying him, showing him that is the ONLY one for you. The Lord will the rest.
*Honoring God gives a woman power to change her man. Proverbs 31:11 "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil." *(Trustworthy, dependable, worthy of confidence, reliable, honest, deserving) This things will help change your husband and eventually bring him to Christ.
Proverbs 31:12 "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. *(Constant in her love, unshaken, unmoved, faithful, ceaseless, enduring, unchanging, loyal, permanent)
*You CANNOT become his conscience or his accuser, expecting that pressure is going to push him into repentance.
"Finally brethern, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
You may ask do I really make a difference? YES!! We make such a huge difference in our husbands lives. If you think about how many men really like doing dishes, laundry, cleaning the house, vacuuming..... You make a difference not only in the daily task but in his life in general. So this is why we NEED to obey/submit to our husbands.
There is so much more I could cover on this topic. If you are interested in more about obeying our husbands....feel free to contact me. Or you can purchase the book that I have used as part of my sources for the devo's.
*taken from "Created to Be His Help Meet"
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 21 of 24
WOW!! I can't believe we're already up to lesson 21.... I have enjoyed studying this topic and working on the post each morning. I pray you have enjoyed them also.
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good...."
*A Good woman is guine, joyful, virtuous, valuable, competent, ready, kind, benevolent, merciful, hardworking, agreeable, pleasant, congenial, honorable, faithful, gracious and wise.
WOW that's a lot for a Good woman to be. You know though as you go through your day if you have this list posted say in your kitchen and when you've done one put a check by it each time. You'll be surprised how many of these you do without even thinking about it. Then at the end of your day take note of the ones you didn't do so well on that day and have a goal of doing them the next day or over a period of time.
You know, good is as good does! *James Hamilton described goodness this way:
Goodness is love in action
Goodness is love carrying medicine to the sick etc
Goodness is love to the SS Class
Just to name a few and you can add to each of those things. Like Love in action...how can love be shown through action??
Love in helping the sick etc.
Love in other area's of your church.
Proverbs 12:4 "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones."
You say but, "I stay home day in and day out doing around the house caring for the children, then my husband comes in plops down in the recliner and does NOTHING!! Why should I be a "crown" for him?! However here's the question for you...Why should you be his crown?
1. By doing this your children will rise up and call you blessed.
2. By doing this your husband will see your love for him and he will love and appreciate you.
3. By doing this you are raising a comfortable place for your family.
4. Most importantly you are doing as God tells you to do. This will help her husband to come to God, if you have an unsaved husband.
Prover 12:4 "...but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones." Are you a ball and chain woman??
**Spend money you really shouldn't spend. Doesn't want to cook dinner would rather spend more money by going out to eat. Never makes sure there's food in the house so you can prepare a meal.
**You could be married to a man who is attentive and cares for his children, BUT you want to run around all day while your husband is busy at work. Leaving the children with a sitter so YOU don't have to care for them. Then when the children "go bad" who gets the blame....the father! You have the ball and chain that is slowly pulling him backwards for every good step he takes forward.
**Maybe you are married to a man who is honest of high integrity, yet his wife uses others peoples resources and is irresponsible which pull both of them down where they are neither one highly regarded. Your husband will love you but you are rottenness in his bones.
You can be a good woman but if you carry the ball and chain in any of the above area's it makes it where your husband cannot make up for your deficits. You can make your husband where he becomes a loser, because you are rottenness in his bones he many times looses all hopes.
Good women are prudent:
>A prudent wife is not dumb
>A prudent wife not lazy
>A prudent wife does not waste her time
>A prudent wife is a learner
Are you a Prudent wife??
A Good woman is Virtuous:
Proverbs 31 teaches on a Virtuous woman.
A good woman is crowned with Knowledge:
Proverbs 14:18 "The simple inherit folly: but the prudent are crowned with knowledge."
Being Prudent is growing in knowledge.
Proberbs 18:15 "The heart of teh prudent getteth knowledge: and the ear of the wise seeketh knowledge.
Proberbs 16:21 "The wise in heart shall be called prudent: and the sweetness of the lips increaseth learning"
The wise in heart - are you wise in how you do and act from day to day.
A Good Woman is a doing Woman:
Proverbs 18:9 :He also that is slothful in his work is brother to him that is a great waster."
Are you this type of woman the verse mentions.
OR are you a productive woman as Proverbs 31 speaks of. Not wasting time, getting things done.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
**parts of it are from the above mentioned book.
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good...."
*A Good woman is guine, joyful, virtuous, valuable, competent, ready, kind, benevolent, merciful, hardworking, agreeable, pleasant, congenial, honorable, faithful, gracious and wise.
WOW that's a lot for a Good woman to be. You know though as you go through your day if you have this list posted say in your kitchen and when you've done one put a check by it each time. You'll be surprised how many of these you do without even thinking about it. Then at the end of your day take note of the ones you didn't do so well on that day and have a goal of doing them the next day or over a period of time.
You know, good is as good does! *James Hamilton described goodness this way:
Goodness is love in action
Goodness is love carrying medicine to the sick etc
Goodness is love to the SS Class
Just to name a few and you can add to each of those things. Like Love in action...how can love be shown through action??
Love in helping the sick etc.
Love in other area's of your church.
Proverbs 12:4 "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones."
You say but, "I stay home day in and day out doing around the house caring for the children, then my husband comes in plops down in the recliner and does NOTHING!! Why should I be a "crown" for him?! However here's the question for you...Why should you be his crown?
1. By doing this your children will rise up and call you blessed.
2. By doing this your husband will see your love for him and he will love and appreciate you.
3. By doing this you are raising a comfortable place for your family.
4. Most importantly you are doing as God tells you to do. This will help her husband to come to God, if you have an unsaved husband.
Prover 12:4 "...but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones." Are you a ball and chain woman??
**Spend money you really shouldn't spend. Doesn't want to cook dinner would rather spend more money by going out to eat. Never makes sure there's food in the house so you can prepare a meal.
**You could be married to a man who is attentive and cares for his children, BUT you want to run around all day while your husband is busy at work. Leaving the children with a sitter so YOU don't have to care for them. Then when the children "go bad" who gets the blame....the father! You have the ball and chain that is slowly pulling him backwards for every good step he takes forward.
**Maybe you are married to a man who is honest of high integrity, yet his wife uses others peoples resources and is irresponsible which pull both of them down where they are neither one highly regarded. Your husband will love you but you are rottenness in his bones.
You can be a good woman but if you carry the ball and chain in any of the above area's it makes it where your husband cannot make up for your deficits. You can make your husband where he becomes a loser, because you are rottenness in his bones he many times looses all hopes.
Good women are prudent:
>A prudent wife is not dumb
>A prudent wife not lazy
>A prudent wife does not waste her time
>A prudent wife is a learner
Are you a Prudent wife??
A Good woman is Virtuous:
Proverbs 31 teaches on a Virtuous woman.
A good woman is crowned with Knowledge:
Proverbs 14:18 "The simple inherit folly: but the prudent are crowned with knowledge."
Being Prudent is growing in knowledge.
Proberbs 18:15 "The heart of teh prudent getteth knowledge: and the ear of the wise seeketh knowledge.
Proberbs 16:21 "The wise in heart shall be called prudent: and the sweetness of the lips increaseth learning"
The wise in heart - are you wise in how you do and act from day to day.
A Good Woman is a doing Woman:
Proverbs 18:9 :He also that is slothful in his work is brother to him that is a great waster."
Are you this type of woman the verse mentions.
OR are you a productive woman as Proverbs 31 speaks of. Not wasting time, getting things done.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
**parts of it are from the above mentioned book.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 20 of 24
Good Morning! Well, my computer is still down, but praise the Lord my son's computer is working :) Today's lesson is one that I really have enjoyed doing.
Keepers at home!
Keepers - Being on guard, watching, caretaker.
Home - Seat of domestice life.
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, keepers at home...."
Why are we told to be keepers at home? *This is the 6th of 8 mandates for young women. Did you realize that being a keeper at home is NOT a suggestion that we do it, but rather it is God's will for wives!
For a little over 16 yrs I was a stay at home wife/mom. I absolutely loved it. Then a few yrs ago I had to go out of the home to work. Now, for me it was fun yes, I was working at the school my children attended and still got to "be" with them; BUT my house was slowing "dieing". What I mean I wasn't able to do a full time job out of the home as well as be a keeper at home. After 2 yrs we decided that I needed to go back to being a stay at home wife/mom. It has been a little over 9 months now that I've been back to being the keeper at home and our home is better for it.
Now I understand that sometimes a wife has to work maybe a childs health requires mom to work to help pay the medical bills, maybe you have to work because of built up debt, maybe your husband ask you to step into the work force because of today's economy. These are all good reasons but you need to be sure to balance your time and day to make sure you maintain the keeper of the home.
*A home is not a home unless the lady is there making it a home. A young mother's place is in the home, keeping it, guarding it, watching over those entrusted to her.
You may ask well whom do I obey? God say's to be a keeper at home, but my husband has asked me to work out of the home. God makes a way for you to obey both the most important thing is attitude. Is your heart surrendered to your husband? If so then it's God's responsiblity to resolve the conflict.
*Trust is the key word. Depend on your husband's wisdom and guidance.
*It was as though God spoke to me and said, "is the word "blasheme" too strong?"
I Timothy 5:14 "I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully"
Hum..... are you "leaving home" via your phone, e-mail, chat rooms, internet???
How much time do you spend on the internet while your children run wild? How much time do you spend talking about that which really you shouldn't talk about?? *"...they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not." WOW!!! Yea, you're at home, but are you really at home?? Sometlhing to seriously consider and think about.
What consumes your time during during the day:
Your children?
Your family?
Your house?
Your husband?
OR
The soaps on TV?
Internet?
E-mail?
Chat rooms?
The phone?
Texting?
Did you realize that when you sit down at the computer (I have noticed this) you don't want ANYONE children included to bother you? Or you are watching a tv show, doesn't it just bug you when a child or your husband comes up and wants to talk to you. Your like can't it wait?? Are you at home or entertaining the "home" of the tv, internet, chat room etc.
Proverbs 12:4 "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones."
Keeping the home it's more than staying home! Your heart is fixed on your house. Being a Help Meet will engage in creative enterprises that challenge and inspire the children.
As a keeper at home you guard against outside influences.
As a keeper at home you protect your children from the own inventions of evil.
As a keeper at home you are NOT idle and you don't allow your children to be idle.
As a keeper at home you ease your husbands load.
As a keeper at home you teach the children to enjoy and love serving Daddy.
As a keeper at home you will make the home where when hubby/daddy comes in it's a sanctuary of peace, love and order.
*A real Help Meet will make herself useful to her man instead of wasting her time.
If you need to work out of the home for whatever reason remember have the right attitude, have faith in your husband that he knows what needs to be done, trust God to care for the situation of having to work out of the home.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Keepers at home!
Keepers - Being on guard, watching, caretaker.
Home - Seat of domestice life.
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, keepers at home...."
Why are we told to be keepers at home? *This is the 6th of 8 mandates for young women. Did you realize that being a keeper at home is NOT a suggestion that we do it, but rather it is God's will for wives!
For a little over 16 yrs I was a stay at home wife/mom. I absolutely loved it. Then a few yrs ago I had to go out of the home to work. Now, for me it was fun yes, I was working at the school my children attended and still got to "be" with them; BUT my house was slowing "dieing". What I mean I wasn't able to do a full time job out of the home as well as be a keeper at home. After 2 yrs we decided that I needed to go back to being a stay at home wife/mom. It has been a little over 9 months now that I've been back to being the keeper at home and our home is better for it.
Now I understand that sometimes a wife has to work maybe a childs health requires mom to work to help pay the medical bills, maybe you have to work because of built up debt, maybe your husband ask you to step into the work force because of today's economy. These are all good reasons but you need to be sure to balance your time and day to make sure you maintain the keeper of the home.
*A home is not a home unless the lady is there making it a home. A young mother's place is in the home, keeping it, guarding it, watching over those entrusted to her.
You may ask well whom do I obey? God say's to be a keeper at home, but my husband has asked me to work out of the home. God makes a way for you to obey both the most important thing is attitude. Is your heart surrendered to your husband? If so then it's God's responsiblity to resolve the conflict.
*Trust is the key word. Depend on your husband's wisdom and guidance.
*It was as though God spoke to me and said, "is the word "blasheme" too strong?"
I Timothy 5:14 "I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully"
Hum..... are you "leaving home" via your phone, e-mail, chat rooms, internet???
How much time do you spend on the internet while your children run wild? How much time do you spend talking about that which really you shouldn't talk about?? *"...they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not." WOW!!! Yea, you're at home, but are you really at home?? Sometlhing to seriously consider and think about.
What consumes your time during during the day:
Your children?
Your family?
Your house?
Your husband?
OR
The soaps on TV?
Internet?
E-mail?
Chat rooms?
The phone?
Texting?
Did you realize that when you sit down at the computer (I have noticed this) you don't want ANYONE children included to bother you? Or you are watching a tv show, doesn't it just bug you when a child or your husband comes up and wants to talk to you. Your like can't it wait?? Are you at home or entertaining the "home" of the tv, internet, chat room etc.
Proverbs 12:4 "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones."
Keeping the home it's more than staying home! Your heart is fixed on your house. Being a Help Meet will engage in creative enterprises that challenge and inspire the children.
As a keeper at home you guard against outside influences.
As a keeper at home you protect your children from the own inventions of evil.
As a keeper at home you are NOT idle and you don't allow your children to be idle.
As a keeper at home you ease your husbands load.
As a keeper at home you teach the children to enjoy and love serving Daddy.
As a keeper at home you will make the home where when hubby/daddy comes in it's a sanctuary of peace, love and order.
*A real Help Meet will make herself useful to her man instead of wasting her time.
If you need to work out of the home for whatever reason remember have the right attitude, have faith in your husband that he knows what needs to be done, trust God to care for the situation of having to work out of the home.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 19 of 24
Good Morning this cold and windy day :) Are y'all ready for Spring? I know I am..... Well, today is going to be a great day and all that happens will happen for a reason AMEN!!
I have a question for you..... Do you and your MAN have a date night? If not try to start having one! I LOVE Tuesdays, why? It's the day I get to go out with just me and my Man that evening!!! My challenge for you is: If you don't have a wkly date with your husband start planning a special evening each wk, start off at home, sending the kids to the sitters for a few hours. Then eventually make it where the sitter comes to your home and you go out!
Today's lesson isn't even about having weekly dates, but I wanted to include that for all you wonderful couples out there!
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste...."
*We aged women are to teach the young women to be Chaste: pure in thought, word, and act, and to be modest and honorable in all things."
(I'm only putting a few parts of this passage here be sure to read the whole passage here) I Peter 3:1-6 "...While they behold your chaste conversation...let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair...even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price...."
What do you think it meant to chaste in conversation? Well, I'm no well known scholar, but I would think that we need to be careful of
our conversation. We dont' want to be a gossip, or telling others about things that they don't need know AND that you don't need to discus with them. The word chaste also means pure and in the Bible another time is used as clear. Philippians 4:8, James 3;17 will give more on this.
How do you think God wants our outward appearance to be? "...not be that outward adorning...." God wants us to dress modestly and look our best outwardly. Now, don't you think that you husband would want the same. Your husband should not only be able to say my wife is decent but when he and others see you, YOU LOOK decent! Now this part of the lesson maybe a little touchy and I won't go into great detail.
I told a young lady who recently graduated from our school who had a question about convictions this: "You grew up believing and obeying your Parents conviction, BUT the conviction on clothing and other things needs to become your own." I also told her, "You know that the way you were raised is what God would want, and as the mother of your friend, you should keep the Bibles convictions as your own."
When you are asked, "What is your conviction on _________________?" Do you say, "My parents or well my conviction is _______" You know when you married your Man he wanted to be PROUD of the way you look. I've been married almost 19 yrs and I will on occasion ask, "Bill, are you proud of the way I look?" Now that's a rather pointed question, but He Knows I want to look the best I can for him. Recently he mentioned he'd like it if I could lose a little weight, he wasn't calling me fat, he just thinks I'd be happier and healthier if I lost a few lbs. Well, guess what I'm working on. Now please as you read this don't think, she's miss perfect doing everything her husband wants..... TRUST me there are times I dont' want to do as he ask, and sadly I must say, I mess up and don't always do as he ask. I AM HUMAN just as you are!!! So going back to the conviction, I don't wear pants, and I know many who don't why don't I/others not wear pants. One the Bible clearly teaches that woman isn't to wear the apparel of man. Deuteronomy 22:5 says, "The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God." I mentioned doing as my husband ask, one of the things while we were dating was he asked if I would lengthen my skirts, now they weren't mini skirts by no means, but he wanted them a little longer. It took some getting use to but I did it. Why I was in Love Bill III and I wanted to please him even before we were married. We could really go into depth on this subject, at this time though I won't. If you have questions on this please feel free to e-mail me from my blog.
*Discreet; careful, considerate, watchful.
*Chaste: pure in thought, word and act; modest honorable.
Meek and Quiet Spirit.... Wow this is really hard for some to be meek and quiet. I can be quiet NO problems, but meek?! Well.....
I'm going to recommend a book here titled "The Meek and Quiet Spirit" By Cindy Hyles Schaap I LOVE her book and have read many times.
Meek means, Of gently and longsuffering disposition; submissive; compliant.
If you were to ask my husband he would tell you I'm gentle, submissive and usually compliant. Longsuffering I'm working on :) But then I love the kids song that defiantly applies to me. "He still workin on me, to make me what I ought to be. It took just a wk to make the moon and stars, Jupiter and mars, BUT he's still working on me!" As a Christian, wife, mom, teacher I have alot of work that needs to be done. I mean just yesterday no one would of said I have a meek and quiet spirit. I was frustrated with my computer, the kids well.... they were being boys. Hubby had to work late, I was tired, frustrated and yes even mad a few times. BUT I cared for it and tried to be a meek and quiet spirit through out the day. I'm not perfect and it took a lot of work, Much Prayer and a lot of biting my tongue yesterday.
All that to say, we are a work in progress and our Meek and Quiet Spirit will take some work.
*Chaste: The appearance of a Good Help Meet
Think with me on moment about the last time you went to church. In your mind's eye, scan the room and reflect on how the women, including yourself, were dressed. Now read what God says in I Timothy 2:9-15.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
I have a question for you..... Do you and your MAN have a date night? If not try to start having one! I LOVE Tuesdays, why? It's the day I get to go out with just me and my Man that evening!!! My challenge for you is: If you don't have a wkly date with your husband start planning a special evening each wk, start off at home, sending the kids to the sitters for a few hours. Then eventually make it where the sitter comes to your home and you go out!
Today's lesson isn't even about having weekly dates, but I wanted to include that for all you wonderful couples out there!
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste...."
*We aged women are to teach the young women to be Chaste: pure in thought, word, and act, and to be modest and honorable in all things."
(I'm only putting a few parts of this passage here be sure to read the whole passage here) I Peter 3:1-6 "...While they behold your chaste conversation...let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair...even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price...."
What do you think it meant to chaste in conversation? Well, I'm no well known scholar, but I would think that we need to be careful of
our conversation. We dont' want to be a gossip, or telling others about things that they don't need know AND that you don't need to discus with them. The word chaste also means pure and in the Bible another time is used as clear. Philippians 4:8, James 3;17 will give more on this.
How do you think God wants our outward appearance to be? "...not be that outward adorning...." God wants us to dress modestly and look our best outwardly. Now, don't you think that you husband would want the same. Your husband should not only be able to say my wife is decent but when he and others see you, YOU LOOK decent! Now this part of the lesson maybe a little touchy and I won't go into great detail.
I told a young lady who recently graduated from our school who had a question about convictions this: "You grew up believing and obeying your Parents conviction, BUT the conviction on clothing and other things needs to become your own." I also told her, "You know that the way you were raised is what God would want, and as the mother of your friend, you should keep the Bibles convictions as your own."
When you are asked, "What is your conviction on _________________?" Do you say, "My parents or well my conviction is _______" You know when you married your Man he wanted to be PROUD of the way you look. I've been married almost 19 yrs and I will on occasion ask, "Bill, are you proud of the way I look?" Now that's a rather pointed question, but He Knows I want to look the best I can for him. Recently he mentioned he'd like it if I could lose a little weight, he wasn't calling me fat, he just thinks I'd be happier and healthier if I lost a few lbs. Well, guess what I'm working on. Now please as you read this don't think, she's miss perfect doing everything her husband wants..... TRUST me there are times I dont' want to do as he ask, and sadly I must say, I mess up and don't always do as he ask. I AM HUMAN just as you are!!! So going back to the conviction, I don't wear pants, and I know many who don't why don't I/others not wear pants. One the Bible clearly teaches that woman isn't to wear the apparel of man. Deuteronomy 22:5 says, "The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God." I mentioned doing as my husband ask, one of the things while we were dating was he asked if I would lengthen my skirts, now they weren't mini skirts by no means, but he wanted them a little longer. It took some getting use to but I did it. Why I was in Love Bill III and I wanted to please him even before we were married. We could really go into depth on this subject, at this time though I won't. If you have questions on this please feel free to e-mail me from my blog.
*Discreet; careful, considerate, watchful.
*Chaste: pure in thought, word and act; modest honorable.
Meek and Quiet Spirit.... Wow this is really hard for some to be meek and quiet. I can be quiet NO problems, but meek?! Well.....
I'm going to recommend a book here titled "The Meek and Quiet Spirit" By Cindy Hyles Schaap I LOVE her book and have read many times.
Meek means, Of gently and longsuffering disposition; submissive; compliant.
If you were to ask my husband he would tell you I'm gentle, submissive and usually compliant. Longsuffering I'm working on :) But then I love the kids song that defiantly applies to me. "He still workin on me, to make me what I ought to be. It took just a wk to make the moon and stars, Jupiter and mars, BUT he's still working on me!" As a Christian, wife, mom, teacher I have alot of work that needs to be done. I mean just yesterday no one would of said I have a meek and quiet spirit. I was frustrated with my computer, the kids well.... they were being boys. Hubby had to work late, I was tired, frustrated and yes even mad a few times. BUT I cared for it and tried to be a meek and quiet spirit through out the day. I'm not perfect and it took a lot of work, Much Prayer and a lot of biting my tongue yesterday.
All that to say, we are a work in progress and our Meek and Quiet Spirit will take some work.
*Chaste: The appearance of a Good Help Meet
Think with me on moment about the last time you went to church. In your mind's eye, scan the room and reflect on how the women, including yourself, were dressed. Now read what God says in I Timothy 2:9-15.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Monday, February 14, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 18 of 24
OH man computer problems are being a major problem here today. I had to borrow my sons computer and plug into the Internet. If I went into detail all that has happened as far as computers I would never get to the lesson. Let's just say for some reason Satan isn't wanting this lesson to be posted.....
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet...."
*To be discreet - Prudent; wise in avoiding error and in selecting the best means to accomplish a purpose: circumspect; courteous, polite, honest dealings.
What we've learned thus far from these verses:
1. sober -the practical side of marriage
2. to love you husband - the sexual side
3. to love your children - to be instant in season and out of season.
Next is to be discreet, it's also translated as, taste, behaviour and judgement. *Discretion, therefore is, having good taste...good judgement...useful...to be of good understanding.
Proverbs 11:22 "As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion"
Are you courteous (considerate of others)?
Make sure that as you go about in your daily duties, chores, comings and goings that you are courteous to others. You want others to be courteous such as your husband, children etc.
*When you are discreet, wise, and kind in your dealings with other people, you will reap the benefits throughout life.
*A discreet person is one who handles another person's resources with grave carefulness and honestly.
Seek to be honest (discretion is good judgement)
Proverbs 11:22 "As a jewel of hold is a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion"
I Peter 3:4,8 ""...even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price...Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous"
Seek to be gracious (discretion is good taste)
Proverbs 11:16 "A gracious woman retaineth honour."
*You have forgotten the pleasure of having a man do something special for you.
Lack of Judgement
Proverbs 14:1 "Everywise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.:
*A wise woman doesn't attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions will be sincere inquires concerning his will."
12 things that will tear down your house: (*all 12 things are from the book I've been using)
1. Do you feel comfortable spending that much money buying that ______________?
2. Honey, I need to ask you something very important that really tears me up inside. Doesn't this activity you are engaging in grieve your spirit?
3. Why don't you ever want to go with me to ________________?
4. Are you sure God wants you to work at that job and be away from us all the time?
5. Before we were married, you read your Bible or at least you said you did. Why don't you ever read and teach me and the children?
6. Why don't you spend more time with your sons?
7. Do you ever think of just loving me in the spiritual way instead of always the carnal? I am so hungry for some deep spiritual understanding and communication.
8. Sweetheart, why won't you have devotions with us? We want you to lead us in prayer and help us grow spiritually. The Bible says you are our spiritual leader; why, why will you not lead?
9. Why do you think the pastor said that about _____________? Don't you think it was cruel? Sometimes I wonder if we should go to church somewhere else.
10. Poor _______, it is so sad to see what the preacher's mean words have done to that family. Don't you think we should do something about it, like call and let them know we love them and don't agree with the pastor? Besides, I am so hurt at that pastor myself.
11. Honey, it's church time. You need to get dressed. What! your not going? But you always go to church. Do you think you should let a silly thing like business with ____________ keep you from worship? Besides, you know , the pastor was right, that ____________ was up to no good all along! You have to go to church. What about the children? You'll be a bad influence on them. Don't you care?
12. ________, I want you to know that without your close loving friendship, which I turn to every day, I would never be able to get through this loveless marriage. He is so cold and distant. He doesn't care about the children. I don't know how I could have been so deceived into thinking he was a fine, Christian man when I married him. Will you ask the girls to pray for him this week at our women's meeting?
Do you go around saying things like this to your husband, friends, or children???
Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law."
Being a good Help Meet:
1. A good help meet grows in a grace and knowledge.
2. She is gracious and honest.
3. She is without guile toward her husband.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet...."
*To be discreet - Prudent; wise in avoiding error and in selecting the best means to accomplish a purpose: circumspect; courteous, polite, honest dealings.
What we've learned thus far from these verses:
1. sober -the practical side of marriage
2. to love you husband - the sexual side
3. to love your children - to be instant in season and out of season.
Next is to be discreet, it's also translated as, taste, behaviour and judgement. *Discretion, therefore is, having good taste...good judgement...useful...to be of good understanding.
Proverbs 11:22 "As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion"
Are you courteous (considerate of others)?
Make sure that as you go about in your daily duties, chores, comings and goings that you are courteous to others. You want others to be courteous such as your husband, children etc.
*When you are discreet, wise, and kind in your dealings with other people, you will reap the benefits throughout life.
*A discreet person is one who handles another person's resources with grave carefulness and honestly.
Seek to be honest (discretion is good judgement)
Proverbs 11:22 "As a jewel of hold is a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion"
I Peter 3:4,8 ""...even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price...Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous"
Seek to be gracious (discretion is good taste)
Proverbs 11:16 "A gracious woman retaineth honour."
*You have forgotten the pleasure of having a man do something special for you.
Lack of Judgement
Proverbs 14:1 "Everywise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.:
*A wise woman doesn't attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions will be sincere inquires concerning his will."
12 things that will tear down your house: (*all 12 things are from the book I've been using)
1. Do you feel comfortable spending that much money buying that ______________?
2. Honey, I need to ask you something very important that really tears me up inside. Doesn't this activity you are engaging in grieve your spirit?
3. Why don't you ever want to go with me to ________________?
4. Are you sure God wants you to work at that job and be away from us all the time?
5. Before we were married, you read your Bible or at least you said you did. Why don't you ever read and teach me and the children?
6. Why don't you spend more time with your sons?
7. Do you ever think of just loving me in the spiritual way instead of always the carnal? I am so hungry for some deep spiritual understanding and communication.
8. Sweetheart, why won't you have devotions with us? We want you to lead us in prayer and help us grow spiritually. The Bible says you are our spiritual leader; why, why will you not lead?
9. Why do you think the pastor said that about _____________? Don't you think it was cruel? Sometimes I wonder if we should go to church somewhere else.
10. Poor _______, it is so sad to see what the preacher's mean words have done to that family. Don't you think we should do something about it, like call and let them know we love them and don't agree with the pastor? Besides, I am so hurt at that pastor myself.
11. Honey, it's church time. You need to get dressed. What! your not going? But you always go to church. Do you think you should let a silly thing like business with ____________ keep you from worship? Besides, you know , the pastor was right, that ____________ was up to no good all along! You have to go to church. What about the children? You'll be a bad influence on them. Don't you care?
12. ________, I want you to know that without your close loving friendship, which I turn to every day, I would never be able to get through this loveless marriage. He is so cold and distant. He doesn't care about the children. I don't know how I could have been so deceived into thinking he was a fine, Christian man when I married him. Will you ask the girls to pray for him this week at our women's meeting?
Do you go around saying things like this to your husband, friends, or children???
Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law."
Being a good Help Meet:
1. A good help meet grows in a grace and knowledge.
2. She is gracious and honest.
3. She is without guile toward her husband.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 17 of 24
Well, I was expecting to be able to sit down at the computer today, but praise the Lord everyone seems to be doing much better. We were all in Church this morning first time in 2 mo the whole Seavey crew has been in church together. It was a wonderful thing!! Now to our next lesson:
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children...."
Yes, part of being the right kind of Help Meet is loving our children. They are a big part of our lives. It doesn't matter if you have 1 or 10 (yes I know families with even more than 10). Because we have children, *the most important thing a mother will do for her children is to create an atmosphere of peace and joy by deeply loving their Daddy and being satisfied with life.
Are you making that kind of home for your children? Or do you complain about what you don't have, what your husband doesn't do? OR Do you praise and raise Daddy up before the kids? It will and does make a difference!!
If your children were asked the following questions how would they answer?
1. Is your home happy?
2. What one thing would you like to see changed in your home that would make you a happier person?
To pretty strong questions, however think about how your son or daughter would answer.
Does you Son or Daughter want to be like you?
Are you the kind of parent that your little one says, "I want to be just like mommy or daddy?"
There is so much I could touch on here, however I'm just giving things we should think about and work on through prayer and Bible reading to change or make better.
*God has honored the mother wit the position of being the constant trainer of her young children.
Proverbs 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
What are some ways we train? How to pedal bike, make their bed, pick up their toys after playing, how to cook, read, teaching them how to respect their elders and others as well as other peoples things, plus so much more. If you truly love your children you find training them a joy not a chore!
*The woman who invests in a child's life will be the one the child loves and with whom the child bonds.
Isaiah 28:9-10 "Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts. For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept: line upon line, line upon line: here a little, and there a little."
Are you teaching your children or do they just go through life not really knowing anything. Do they feel dumb or smart?
*The woman who invests herself in a child's life will be the one whom the child loves and the one with whom he will bond when he is older. Have you/are you investing in your child(rens) lives? III John 1:4 "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth."
Hears a new habit for you to form:
*Look into your child's eyes and smile many times each day. Take a 5 min break every thirty minutes or so to just play with him or her. Never work alone; always have your "little buddy" helping you.
Proverbs 13:24 "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."
Proverbs 22:15 "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."
Proverbs 29:15 "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."
Be sure to train your child in the right way. Love him, care for him.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Titus 2:4-5 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children...."
Yes, part of being the right kind of Help Meet is loving our children. They are a big part of our lives. It doesn't matter if you have 1 or 10 (yes I know families with even more than 10). Because we have children, *the most important thing a mother will do for her children is to create an atmosphere of peace and joy by deeply loving their Daddy and being satisfied with life.
Are you making that kind of home for your children? Or do you complain about what you don't have, what your husband doesn't do? OR Do you praise and raise Daddy up before the kids? It will and does make a difference!!
If your children were asked the following questions how would they answer?
1. Is your home happy?
2. What one thing would you like to see changed in your home that would make you a happier person?
To pretty strong questions, however think about how your son or daughter would answer.
Does you Son or Daughter want to be like you?
Are you the kind of parent that your little one says, "I want to be just like mommy or daddy?"
There is so much I could touch on here, however I'm just giving things we should think about and work on through prayer and Bible reading to change or make better.
*God has honored the mother wit the position of being the constant trainer of her young children.
Proverbs 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
What are some ways we train? How to pedal bike, make their bed, pick up their toys after playing, how to cook, read, teaching them how to respect their elders and others as well as other peoples things, plus so much more. If you truly love your children you find training them a joy not a chore!
*The woman who invests in a child's life will be the one the child loves and with whom the child bonds.
Isaiah 28:9-10 "Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts. For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept: line upon line, line upon line: here a little, and there a little."
Are you teaching your children or do they just go through life not really knowing anything. Do they feel dumb or smart?
*The woman who invests herself in a child's life will be the one whom the child loves and the one with whom he will bond when he is older. Have you/are you investing in your child(rens) lives? III John 1:4 "I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth."
Hears a new habit for you to form:
*Look into your child's eyes and smile many times each day. Take a 5 min break every thirty minutes or so to just play with him or her. Never work alone; always have your "little buddy" helping you.
Proverbs 13:24 "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."
Proverbs 22:15 "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."
Proverbs 29:15 "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."
Be sure to train your child in the right way. Love him, care for him.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Friday, February 11, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 16 of 24
Good Morning! Lets be the Help Meet we were meant to be today!
Titus 2:4 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands...."
Love your husband, well I would think that for each of us as wives that we would love our husbands but would you believe that there are women out there who think that he's to love me I don't have to love him?! Scary thought.
So what do loving your husband mean? It simply means that we put His needs ahead of our own. Did you know that your "ministry" is to your husband and children? *Everyday and every night we need to be ready to minister to His needs.
*God's ultimate Goal is for you to meet your Mans needs.
Ephesians 5:31-32 "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, an they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church."
> God's ultimate goal for you is to meet your man's needs
>God's original intention was that a woman would spend her life helping her husband fulfill his dreams and ambitions.
> From the beginning, God meant fr us to be a comfort, a blessing, a reward, a friend, an encouragement, and a right hand woman.
I have a few questions for you here:
1. What can I do to help, __________ (your husbands name)?
2. What should my next project be for _____________?
3. __________, what would you like for me to do now?
This is where you are helping him, being an encouragement by asking to help, being a blessing....
*When a woman is not interested in his most consuming passion, he feels that she is not interested in him.
In Eph 5:31 it says "...they two shall be one flesh." This is where you and your husband become one. The special time the two of you share together. Do you push him aside? Use the day old excuse, "I have a headache." or "I'm really to tired." Did you know you are pushing your Man away to another woman each time you neglect him in the bedroom. Until one day you wake up and you wonder why didn't he come home last night? *Your disinterest in him sexually is a reflection of your heart, and he knows it.
*If a wife does not meet his intimacy and sexual needs, she is a help-not-meet, a helper not suitable to the task for which God created her.
None of us what to be in the help-not-meet but rather in the HELP MEET realm.
*Marriage means becoming one flesh. It does not mean being best friends.
*When you truly love and reverence your husband, the very thought of him loving the likes of you should thrill your soul and make you long to cause him pleasure.
We mentioned earlier that your ministry is your husband. Did you ever consider you intamint life as being a ministry to him. You are fulfilling his needs and making him feel important to you!! That you truly love him and want to be his help meet.
Song of Solomon 3:4 "...I found him whom my soul loveth; I held him, and would not let him go...."
To Love their husbands!!!
*A good help meet glories in answering her husbands needs.
* She learns to know his needs before he is aware he has them.
*She empties her mind of the cares of the world so her body can respond to him with eagerness.
Lets make a new Habit.... make a list of personal plans of how you are going to love your husband be sure you come up with lots of bright ideas. I would suggest at least one special date a wk.
**Several reasons why you should LOVE and be Sexy for your husband:
1. It's fun
2. It's healthy
3. It provokes him to appreciate you.
4. He'll feel good about himself
5. It mellows out you
6. It's a safeguard for your husband against the women of the world
7. It's good for the Children to know their mom and dad love each other.
8. It's of God
9. It makes sweet babies :)
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
**parts of that section was taken from the above mentioned book.
Titus 2:4 "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands...."
Love your husband, well I would think that for each of us as wives that we would love our husbands but would you believe that there are women out there who think that he's to love me I don't have to love him?! Scary thought.
So what do loving your husband mean? It simply means that we put His needs ahead of our own. Did you know that your "ministry" is to your husband and children? *Everyday and every night we need to be ready to minister to His needs.
*God's ultimate Goal is for you to meet your Mans needs.
Ephesians 5:31-32 "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, an they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church."
> God's ultimate goal for you is to meet your man's needs
>God's original intention was that a woman would spend her life helping her husband fulfill his dreams and ambitions.
> From the beginning, God meant fr us to be a comfort, a blessing, a reward, a friend, an encouragement, and a right hand woman.
I have a few questions for you here:
1. What can I do to help, __________ (your husbands name)?
2. What should my next project be for _____________?
3. __________, what would you like for me to do now?
This is where you are helping him, being an encouragement by asking to help, being a blessing....
*When a woman is not interested in his most consuming passion, he feels that she is not interested in him.
In Eph 5:31 it says "...they two shall be one flesh." This is where you and your husband become one. The special time the two of you share together. Do you push him aside? Use the day old excuse, "I have a headache." or "I'm really to tired." Did you know you are pushing your Man away to another woman each time you neglect him in the bedroom. Until one day you wake up and you wonder why didn't he come home last night? *Your disinterest in him sexually is a reflection of your heart, and he knows it.
*If a wife does not meet his intimacy and sexual needs, she is a help-not-meet, a helper not suitable to the task for which God created her.
None of us what to be in the help-not-meet but rather in the HELP MEET realm.
*Marriage means becoming one flesh. It does not mean being best friends.
*When you truly love and reverence your husband, the very thought of him loving the likes of you should thrill your soul and make you long to cause him pleasure.
We mentioned earlier that your ministry is your husband. Did you ever consider you intamint life as being a ministry to him. You are fulfilling his needs and making him feel important to you!! That you truly love him and want to be his help meet.
Song of Solomon 3:4 "...I found him whom my soul loveth; I held him, and would not let him go...."
To Love their husbands!!!
*A good help meet glories in answering her husbands needs.
* She learns to know his needs before he is aware he has them.
*She empties her mind of the cares of the world so her body can respond to him with eagerness.
Lets make a new Habit.... make a list of personal plans of how you are going to love your husband be sure you come up with lots of bright ideas. I would suggest at least one special date a wk.
**Several reasons why you should LOVE and be Sexy for your husband:
1. It's fun
2. It's healthy
3. It provokes him to appreciate you.
4. He'll feel good about himself
5. It mellows out you
6. It's a safeguard for your husband against the women of the world
7. It's good for the Children to know their mom and dad love each other.
8. It's of God
9. It makes sweet babies :)
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
**parts of that section was taken from the above mentioned book.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 15 of 24
Good Morning, Today we"ll start Part 2 of our lessons.
Titus 2:4: "That they may teach the young women to be sober...."
*To be sober: To do one's duty, be moderate, self controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
Isaiah 33:6 "And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation; the fear of the Lord is his treasure"
What does this mean to be a sober wife? First off it's that you realize that you are no longer single, that you can't live and do as a single girl would do. Second, you realize that marriage is joyful and that it holds many responsibilities. Once you are married you make a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of your home.
*When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet.
*A sober wife is one who considers her options, makes her plans, and follows through in order to avoid the confusion of mismanagement.
You can simplify things in many ways:
1. Offer one item at breakfast and don't allow a picky child to get what they want.
2. Have a plan for lunch and dinner. Everyone eats the same. Don't fix one meal for this person and another for someone else. You will be frazzled and frustrated if you all the children to rule and not eat what mom prepares.
The traits of a Good Help Meet:
1. A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
2. She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
3. She plans and prepares well ahead of time.
4. She exercises self discipline.
*Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your life's work and have missed God's perfect plan.
Titus 2:4: "That they may teach the young women to be sober...."
*To be sober: To do one's duty, be moderate, self controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgements.
Isaiah 33:6 "And wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times, and strength of salvation; the fear of the Lord is his treasure"
What does this mean to be a sober wife? First off it's that you realize that you are no longer single, that you can't live and do as a single girl would do. Second, you realize that marriage is joyful and that it holds many responsibilities. Once you are married you make a commitment to be the best wife, mother, and manager of your home.
*When a woman soberly considers the needs, time schedule, and resources of her home, then she will be a more efficient help meet.
*A sober wife is one who considers her options, makes her plans, and follows through in order to avoid the confusion of mismanagement.
You can simplify things in many ways:
1. Offer one item at breakfast and don't allow a picky child to get what they want.
2. Have a plan for lunch and dinner. Everyone eats the same. Don't fix one meal for this person and another for someone else. You will be frazzled and frustrated if you all the children to rule and not eat what mom prepares.
The traits of a Good Help Meet:
1. A good help meet provides an oasis for her man.
2. She fixes meals that please him; she does not cook to suit herself.
3. She plans and prepares well ahead of time.
4. She exercises self discipline.
*Your relationship with your husband is the single most important role you will ever play. If you fail here, then you have failed at your life's work and have missed God's perfect plan.
"A wise woman doesn't let little things stir
her spirit to agitation. With a quiet and meek
spirit, she seeks to make all things better."
Proverbs 12:4 "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones."
How can you be a crown to your husband? What are somethings you can do to "crown" your husband?
Here's a few suggestions for you to be a Good Wife today and a crown to your husband:
1. Have dinner ready when he comes in from work.
2. Prepare yourself. Look nice when he comes in. Don't smell like you've been working out, have your hair fixed nice and look like his bride!
3. Clear away the clutter. Don't set down to a dinner table cluttered with junk. Have the living room, bedroom de-cluttered.
4. Prepare the children. Yes I said prepare the children, they should be excited that daddy is coming home. Have them ready to sit down and eat without having a lot of confusion.
5. Minimize the noise. TURN OFF the TV, turn OFF the video games, when hubby/daddy walks through the door let him come into a calm home. Greet him with hugs from the children and a Kiss from you!
*Do you think God could have used Mary for the mother of Jesus if she had allowed herself to become an emotional wreck when her environment was not clean or orderly?
Philippians 2:5 "Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus"
*Mountain Ma and Pa
by Rebekah Pearl (age 16) April 1991
O, so much ter do,
So much ter be done.
The work's never through,
An' da work ain't much fun,
No thanks fer yer labor,
No pay fer da job,
Jest, "What's fer supper?"
"How 'bout corn-on-da-cob?"
Ya mop an' ya sweep,
Ya dust an' ya shine.
Then turn around,k
An' what do ya find?
His shoes on da floor,
His coat on da chair,
His rear in da couch,
An' his feet in da air!
So ya kick off yer shoes,
An' ya throw down yer broom.
An' ya wink at yer ole man,
So he'll make ya some room!
This is why my Ma and Pa are happily married!
Are you any of these: These are words that God uses to describe a godless woman. Get your concordance out write these words on a separate piece of paper and look them up. If you are any of these you need to start working on being the opposite of them.
*Foolish *Brawling *Without discretion
*Clamorous *Contentious *Wanders from house to house
*Simple *Angry *Stubborn
*Knoweth nothing *Odious *Loud
*Like a swine (fat pig) with a gold nose jewel *Tattler *Busybodies
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Titus 2 which will be Part 2 to, Being the Help Meet you were meant to be.
Good Afternoon, sorry this is being posted late today, I have been sick. Prayerfully I can get this done without having any interruptions.
This little intro will take us into Part 2 of the lessons. Then on tomorrow we will start lesson 15 on Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. Part 2 will be taken from Titus 2
Titus 2:3-5 says, "The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"
Do you know the 8 things God requires of a woman? I will honest with you I didn't know all 8 as far when I first started reading Mrs Debi Pearls book. So as we start into part 2 of these lessons we will learn together the 8 things we as women are suppose to do. Did you realize that if we don't obey these 8 things we will be guilty of blaspheming God words?! WOW!!!
In Mrs Pearls book she calls them the 8 practical game rules. In Mark 3:29 we are told, "But he that shall blaspheme against the Holy Ghost hath never forgiveness, but is in danger of eternal damnation." WOW!!
I do believe I want to make sure I never blaspheme the Holy Spirit or God's Word. The word alone sounds pretty bad.
Lets look at the verses in Titus 2:3-5 in these verse it gives us the 8 things and they are:
"...[1] to be sober [2] to love their husbands [3] to love their children [4] to be discreet, [5] chaste, [6] keepers at home [7] good, [8] obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"
*the passage says there are-not of blaspheming the Holy Ghost, which is the unpardonable sin-rather, of blaspheming the word of God. Even though it is not the unpardonable sin, it sure is a scary thing for Paul to say about young wives.
As I look over these 8 things I wonder: "Why are these 8 things so critical?" "Why is it that a young wife who may refuse to do them would be considered blaspheming?"
As we start tomorrow on this part of the lessons we will learn the why each part is so critical and why we as wives MUST do each of these 8 things.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
This little intro will take us into Part 2 of the lessons. Then on tomorrow we will start lesson 15 on Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. Part 2 will be taken from Titus 2
Titus 2:3-5 says, "The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"
Do you know the 8 things God requires of a woman? I will honest with you I didn't know all 8 as far when I first started reading Mrs Debi Pearls book. So as we start into part 2 of these lessons we will learn together the 8 things we as women are suppose to do. Did you realize that if we don't obey these 8 things we will be guilty of blaspheming God words?! WOW!!!
In Mrs Pearls book she calls them the 8 practical game rules. In Mark 3:29 we are told, "But he that shall blaspheme against the Holy Ghost hath never forgiveness, but is in danger of eternal damnation." WOW!!
I do believe I want to make sure I never blaspheme the Holy Spirit or God's Word. The word alone sounds pretty bad.
Lets look at the verses in Titus 2:3-5 in these verse it gives us the 8 things and they are:
"...[1] to be sober [2] to love their husbands [3] to love their children [4] to be discreet, [5] chaste, [6] keepers at home [7] good, [8] obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"
*the passage says there are-not of blaspheming the Holy Ghost, which is the unpardonable sin-rather, of blaspheming the word of God. Even though it is not the unpardonable sin, it sure is a scary thing for Paul to say about young wives.
As I look over these 8 things I wonder: "Why are these 8 things so critical?" "Why is it that a young wife who may refuse to do them would be considered blaspheming?"
As we start tomorrow on this part of the lessons we will learn the why each part is so critical and why we as wives MUST do each of these 8 things.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 14 of 24
Good Morning friends. I pray that you are seeing changes in not only your own life but in the relationship with you and your husband. Are you being the right kind of Help Meet? Have you taken the Challenge to heart that was given in an earlier lesson?
Today we are looking at the Kings and Kingdoms. *A wise woman always receives her husband's overtures with delight no matter how clumsy he may be. When our husbands receive Praise or Honor we should be delighted no matter what. This can be hard especially since you live with him, you know how he is. In Hosea 4:6 it says, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children." With the culture the way it is today where it opposes God in almost all public schools and where women have tainted so many area's and even some of our best Christian Schools. We need to heed Hosea 4:6
Why do we as women feel that will lose some our self-respect if they surrender to man? It's due to the worlds thinking. We are taught though that an obedient woman, and a submissive woman is what we are to be. This is why so many families have problems in with the husband and wife. The wife feels she should be the leader, the husband wants to be the leader but tires of fighting the wife. As a wife we are to be submissive to our husband. *Reverence is not just how you act; it how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language. Do you really think it's enough to serve your husband; your eyes and the way you swing your body, arms, or hands tell if you your happy to serve him or the attitude of "alright if I must."
Remember the saying, 'Your walk talks, and your talk talks, but your walk talks louder than your talk talks."
There's A LOT of truth there.
Did you know you can't fool your husband. He knows your heart and maybe better than you do. *Deference to your man is the height of true femininity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious and lovely to all.
Proverbs 9:13 "A foolish woman is clamorous; she is simple, and knoweth nothing" Are you this type of woman? Do you clamor at the thought of having to be your husbands Help Meet?
Proverbs 14:1 "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands"
Are you a wise woman? building up your house, your husband, your children?
OR are you the foolish woman who tears down her house, her husband and her children?
The Help Meet who wants to be the BEST she can be will work and strive to be the Wise woman who buildeth her house!
*The very heart of reverence is extreme appreciation and profound thankfulness that this man, just as he is, has chosen to love me, just as I am. If your husband loves you as you are, then why can't you love him as he is?! Stop and think a minute ladies.... You are human, Your husband is Human! You have a sin nature, Your Husband has a sin nature! You stumble at times, your husband stumbles at times! So why do we have a hard time Loving Him For Who He Is?? Did you realize that Your husband will you *many, many faults as long as he knows that you think he is great.
So what have we learned thus far?
* God created us to be Help Meets.
* A Help Meet is one who helps others.
* Joy comes from a Thankful heart
* Thankfulness is from being content with God's will
* A woman is to be submissive and yielding!
* In order to know God's blessings is to honor the chain of command God has for us.
* As the wife we are a picture of the Bride of Christ This is the great mystery
* Our obedience isn't dependent on how our husband obeys God
* We are to reverence our husbands.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Today we are looking at the Kings and Kingdoms. *A wise woman always receives her husband's overtures with delight no matter how clumsy he may be. When our husbands receive Praise or Honor we should be delighted no matter what. This can be hard especially since you live with him, you know how he is. In Hosea 4:6 it says, "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children." With the culture the way it is today where it opposes God in almost all public schools and where women have tainted so many area's and even some of our best Christian Schools. We need to heed Hosea 4:6
Why do we as women feel that will lose some our self-respect if they surrender to man? It's due to the worlds thinking. We are taught though that an obedient woman, and a submissive woman is what we are to be. This is why so many families have problems in with the husband and wife. The wife feels she should be the leader, the husband wants to be the leader but tires of fighting the wife. As a wife we are to be submissive to our husband. *Reverence is not just how you act; it how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language. Do you really think it's enough to serve your husband; your eyes and the way you swing your body, arms, or hands tell if you your happy to serve him or the attitude of "alright if I must."
Remember the saying, 'Your walk talks, and your talk talks, but your walk talks louder than your talk talks."
There's A LOT of truth there.
Did you know you can't fool your husband. He knows your heart and maybe better than you do. *Deference to your man is the height of true femininity. It makes a woman beautiful, gracious and lovely to all.
Proverbs 9:13 "A foolish woman is clamorous; she is simple, and knoweth nothing" Are you this type of woman? Do you clamor at the thought of having to be your husbands Help Meet?
Proverbs 14:1 "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands"
Are you a wise woman? building up your house, your husband, your children?
OR are you the foolish woman who tears down her house, her husband and her children?
The Help Meet who wants to be the BEST she can be will work and strive to be the Wise woman who buildeth her house!
*The very heart of reverence is extreme appreciation and profound thankfulness that this man, just as he is, has chosen to love me, just as I am. If your husband loves you as you are, then why can't you love him as he is?! Stop and think a minute ladies.... You are human, Your husband is Human! You have a sin nature, Your Husband has a sin nature! You stumble at times, your husband stumbles at times! So why do we have a hard time Loving Him For Who He Is?? Did you realize that Your husband will you *many, many faults as long as he knows that you think he is great.
So what have we learned thus far?
* God created us to be Help Meets.
* A Help Meet is one who helps others.
* Joy comes from a Thankful heart
* Thankfulness is from being content with God's will
* A woman is to be submissive and yielding!
* In order to know God's blessings is to honor the chain of command God has for us.
* As the wife we are a picture of the Bride of Christ This is the great mystery
* Our obedience isn't dependent on how our husband obeys God
* We are to reverence our husbands.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Monday, February 7, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 13 of 24
Wow in reading this chapter of Debi's book and making my own notes I had not realized out of 12 mysteries in the Bible that only one was Great and then to learn which one is Great was even more interesting!
Ephesians 5:32-33 "This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church....
and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
Mystery is defined as; something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being above human intelligence. An enigma; anything artfully made difficult."
*A wise woman understands that her husband's need to be honored is not based on his performance, but on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God's Will for her life.
WOW!!! That is a lot for us as wives to know and do! I'm human just as the rest of you and trust me no matter how much I try it's not always easy to be enthusiastic about his plans. However, I am saved, and I do know that, that is what God wants so I do best. Sometimes the enthusiasm is because God says we're suppose. Which I will say is fine especially if you are just learning to be the Help Meet you are meant to be.
**Jesus wants us for a friend. As I was reading the things Jesus wants goes RIGHT along with what a husband and wife should have! Such as companion, discuss things with, a playmate, someone to laugh and cry with, someone to enjoy life with. Jesus wants a buddy, lover, help meet, someone to share his work with, he like your husband wanted is to be a groom and he wants the church as his bride. This is GREAT Mystery I mentioned earlier.
*He seems to create in me and my relationship to my husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church throughout eternity.
WOW!!! Look at this Jesus wants from us his Children, the same we as wives are to be and do with our MAN!!! *Knowing tat my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life.
This is completely amazing, wonderful and inspirational. My relationship to Christ is to be the same with my MAN the one I vowed to LOVE, HONOR, OBEY My Husband!!
Looking back at Ephesians 5:32 "This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church...and the wife see the she reverence her husband"
1. Obedience - doing what you know the other person wants
2. Submission - giving your heart over to the other person.
3. Reverence - this is more than just doing what a man request or demands. It's the act of the woman's will to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.
The above 3 things are acts of your will not on feelings. It's not I'll obey him today because I feel like it. NO
It's a will that we do these things.
Are you ready for this....*God entrusted to a man and his wife the opportunity, as a married couple, to be a living picture of this great mystery!" What an awesome thought!!
God the perfect one, entrusted to you and I, the wife, along with our husband to be a LIVING picture of his GREAT Mystery.
You say ok all this is good, but my husband is unsaved. What do I do then.
I Peter 3:1 "Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives."
*In today's churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives.
A woman wins her husband, by the manner of conversation or way of living before him. We will discuss later how to win your lost husband. If you are reading this and your husband is unsaved just cont to do as this lesson has taught thus far.
Start a New Habit: *Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day. Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally.
There's some exciting and new things in this lesson hope you enjoyed it.
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
**Didn't copy the whole thing word for word but most of it is from Debi's book.
Ephesians 5:32-33 "This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church....
and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
Mystery is defined as; something hidden from human knowledge and fitted to inspire a sense of awe; especially something incomprehensible through being above human intelligence. An enigma; anything artfully made difficult."
*A wise woman understands that her husband's need to be honored is not based on his performance, but on his nature and his God-ordained position. She learns quickly to defer to his ideas or plans with enthusiasm. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God's Will for her life.
WOW!!! That is a lot for us as wives to know and do! I'm human just as the rest of you and trust me no matter how much I try it's not always easy to be enthusiastic about his plans. However, I am saved, and I do know that, that is what God wants so I do best. Sometimes the enthusiasm is because God says we're suppose. Which I will say is fine especially if you are just learning to be the Help Meet you are meant to be.
**Jesus wants us for a friend. As I was reading the things Jesus wants goes RIGHT along with what a husband and wife should have! Such as companion, discuss things with, a playmate, someone to laugh and cry with, someone to enjoy life with. Jesus wants a buddy, lover, help meet, someone to share his work with, he like your husband wanted is to be a groom and he wants the church as his bride. This is GREAT Mystery I mentioned earlier.
*He seems to create in me and my relationship to my husband a working scale model of his relationship to the Church throughout eternity.
WOW!!! Look at this Jesus wants from us his Children, the same we as wives are to be and do with our MAN!!! *Knowing tat my role as a wife typifies the Church's relationship to Christ has molded my life.
This is completely amazing, wonderful and inspirational. My relationship to Christ is to be the same with my MAN the one I vowed to LOVE, HONOR, OBEY My Husband!!
Looking back at Ephesians 5:32 "This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church...and the wife see the she reverence her husband"
1. Obedience - doing what you know the other person wants
2. Submission - giving your heart over to the other person.
3. Reverence - this is more than just doing what a man request or demands. It's the act of the woman's will to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe.
The above 3 things are acts of your will not on feelings. It's not I'll obey him today because I feel like it. NO
It's a will that we do these things.
Are you ready for this....*God entrusted to a man and his wife the opportunity, as a married couple, to be a living picture of this great mystery!" What an awesome thought!!
God the perfect one, entrusted to you and I, the wife, along with our husband to be a LIVING picture of his GREAT Mystery.
You say ok all this is good, but my husband is unsaved. What do I do then.
I Peter 3:1 "Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives."
*In today's churches, many women have failed to win their husbands because they have tried to be evangelists instead of wives.
A woman wins her husband, by the manner of conversation or way of living before him. We will discuss later how to win your lost husband. If you are reading this and your husband is unsaved just cont to do as this lesson has taught thus far.
Start a New Habit: *Try to show your husband noticeable esteem at least 3 times a day. Plan small habits you can establish that will make it easier to remember, until giving him deference comes naturally.
There's some exciting and new things in this lesson hope you enjoyed it.
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
**Didn't copy the whole thing word for word but most of it is from Debi's book.
Sunday, February 6, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 12 of 24
*The only position where you will find real fulfillment as a woman is as a help meet to your husband.
But I would have you know, and the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. I Corinthians 11:3
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Ephesians 5:23
I realize that in today's world for the man to be the head of the home, or his wife is almost unheard of. However, the Bible never changes and God has taught since the beginning of time that man and woman were to marry. In that the husband is the head of the wife. The emphasis that we are looking at here today is that we are not just submitting to men, but that women show, the heavenly pattern of the Son submitting to the Father.
You say but my husband isn't saved. What do I do. God's word is the final authority.Your husband is your Knight in God's protective armor. Maybe his armor seems a bit rusty but the armor is still from God, your safe covering in everything. God tells us to be his Help Meet. We are to submit, obey, and even reverence our husbands.
1. We are part of man. God made woman from the rib of man.
2. Our position to our husbands is the as Christ to the church.
*God tells us WHY our husband is to be the one who rules the home. God explains why it is never his will for the wife to rule.
1. The fall into sin was due to a woman.
2. Curses were placed on the guilty in the fall.
Marriage is made in Heaven
*God has spoken frankly as to why he made us as he did and what our role is to be.
There is to be one man and one woman! I won't go into detail on this because one I'm not a preacher, but we all know the Marriage that is made in Heaven is a MAN and a WOMAN! We as wives are to be our MANS help meet and we are to submit to him, just as God wants him to submit to the Heavenly Father.
*Traits of a Good Help Meet
*She fears God. Do you?
*She believes God's word as it is Written. Do you?
*She considers her position as a help meet a privileged command. Do You?
I put Do You? after each trait, because I believe if you don't believe or consider one these then you you may have a hard time with the others. We have to follow what the Bible teaches or do as we know 100% not 99%. Do you think you can be the right kind of Help Meet if you only put 90% of yourself into it? Or does it take 100%?
Challenge for this wk: (parts of each of these are taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
Monday: Write 3 things down that you can better in your life for your husband.
Tuesday: List 3 things that you can do that will be help to your husband.
Wednesday: Write down 3 things you can do that will encourage your husband
Thursday: Pick 3 things about your personal appearance that you can change that your husband is sure to like.
Friday: List 3 things you can do in your house to please your husband.
Saturday: Write 3 things that makes your husband feel like THE MAN in your life.
Sunday: Plan 3 things you can say or do in front of others shows you love and respect YOUR husband.
Let's all as wives take time this wk to let our husbands know we love him, respect him, honor him, and above all that you are HIS HELP MEET for LIFE!!!
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 11 of 24
Good Afternoon. I had intended to do this much earlier today but it's been a pretty busy day. Getting things hubby needed done, completed and then caring for a sick little one and just being wife, mommy, doctor takes alot of your day. Which I'm sure many of you know about :) Well, our lesson today I've looked over, re wrote, re read, and then looked at again and I believe I now have what the Lord would have me focus on. I'll briefly be on one topic then go into the 2nd half a little bit more.
*Man was created to subdue; woman was created to assist.
I don't know about you, but I'm sure grateful that my husband and I are different. Not only physically, but how we look at things, do things and yes even think! I tell you what I'm sure glad my husband thinks logically on some things. When my emotions start coming into play I need a man to go to who thinks level headed and with logic. Praise the Lord I married a MAN!
Man needs woman and we need to be the BEST Help Meet we can for OUR MAN!!
Now as wives there are actually 2 profiles which one are you?
1. The Jezebel Profile
2. The Virtuous Woman Profile
I Corinthians 11:3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."
1. When we as the woman take the spiritual lead, we step out from under our designated rightful head.
2. When we as the woman take the lead in our marriage, we are assuming the masculine role. Which is wrong for us to do. In doing this we weaken the man.
3. This is the most significant thing.... As a woman if we insist on taking the head role we push our husbands to becoming less responsible and he eventually lets the woman do as she pleases.
4. As a woman if we try to dominate and control things she will become emotionally, and physically exhausted. Why? She is trying to do that which a man should do!!!
These show the Profile of Jezebel.
Now we look at the Virtuous Profile for a woman.
*A virtuous woman is hardworking.
*A virtuous woman is resourceful.
If you notice a woman who's following her husband and letting him be the head of the home as God intended you will find that she is: *confident, hardworking, creative, and resourceful!
Isaiah 55:8 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord" A woman who's spiritual will be that force that he and she both need. As your MANS wife, if you have the right intimate relationship, are fun to be with, an offer spiritual uplifting he and you will benefit.
So are you the Proverbs 31 wife OR the Jezebel type wife? Each of us NEED to make sure we are the Prov 31 wife. Don't say but I __________________ and whatever excuse you give. Just start this very minute, doing your VERY BEST to be the wife God intended you to be, the Help Meet God created you to be.
Genesis 3:16 "Thy desire shall be to they husband and he shall rule over thee"
*See the contrast:
Jezebel Profile Virtuous Woman Profile
1. Prophetess 1. Help meet
2. Teacher 2. Silent
3. One who pities 3. Encourager
4. Religious 4. Prudent worker
5. Controller 5. Submissive
I ask you again which are you? My prayer is that we are the Virtuous Woman Profile doing as the God intended me to as my husbands wife.
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
*Man was created to subdue; woman was created to assist.
I don't know about you, but I'm sure grateful that my husband and I are different. Not only physically, but how we look at things, do things and yes even think! I tell you what I'm sure glad my husband thinks logically on some things. When my emotions start coming into play I need a man to go to who thinks level headed and with logic. Praise the Lord I married a MAN!
Man needs woman and we need to be the BEST Help Meet we can for OUR MAN!!
Now as wives there are actually 2 profiles which one are you?
1. The Jezebel Profile
2. The Virtuous Woman Profile
I Corinthians 11:3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."
1. When we as the woman take the spiritual lead, we step out from under our designated rightful head.
2. When we as the woman take the lead in our marriage, we are assuming the masculine role. Which is wrong for us to do. In doing this we weaken the man.
3. This is the most significant thing.... As a woman if we insist on taking the head role we push our husbands to becoming less responsible and he eventually lets the woman do as she pleases.
4. As a woman if we try to dominate and control things she will become emotionally, and physically exhausted. Why? She is trying to do that which a man should do!!!
These show the Profile of Jezebel.
Now we look at the Virtuous Profile for a woman.
*A virtuous woman is hardworking.
*A virtuous woman is resourceful.
If you notice a woman who's following her husband and letting him be the head of the home as God intended you will find that she is: *confident, hardworking, creative, and resourceful!
Isaiah 55:8 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord" A woman who's spiritual will be that force that he and she both need. As your MANS wife, if you have the right intimate relationship, are fun to be with, an offer spiritual uplifting he and you will benefit.
So are you the Proverbs 31 wife OR the Jezebel type wife? Each of us NEED to make sure we are the Prov 31 wife. Don't say but I __________________ and whatever excuse you give. Just start this very minute, doing your VERY BEST to be the wife God intended you to be, the Help Meet God created you to be.
Genesis 3:16 "Thy desire shall be to they husband and he shall rule over thee"
*See the contrast:
Jezebel Profile Virtuous Woman Profile
1. Prophetess 1. Help meet
2. Teacher 2. Silent
3. One who pities 3. Encourager
4. Religious 4. Prudent worker
5. Controller 5. Submissive
I ask you again which are you? My prayer is that we are the Virtuous Woman Profile doing as the God intended me to as my husbands wife.
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
Friday, February 4, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 10 of 24
How do your Reactions define you?
*A wise woman does not dream of what "could have been." She does not see herself as "God's gift to me;" therefore, she is joyful and content in her present circumstances.
Do your react in anger, frustration, even tempered or not at all? Some things we don't need to react to but then there are things we should react to. How do you determine how you will react. I'm going to insert a little personal thought here:
One of my boys has a tendency to over react. Yesterday for example his brothers were playing with 2 Nerf guns and one of them shot him. Well, it didn't hurt but because he felt that he should of never been hit he jumped up and charged at his brother in a rage! This was an unnecessary reaction. However in another situation one of my boys was doing something and a brother came up and just smacked him for no reason. The brother got upset but didn't retaliate he very sternly told him NOT to do that. Now as adults I'm sure you know which one was the better REACTION.
As adults we react to things in both ways that my boys did. We can over react showing the immature side of us, or we can react in the mature manner.
When you got married you already had your convictions in certain area's Then you may of taken on some of your husbands convictions. Such as when I first met Bill I wore skirts that came 2 in below my knee they were modest, but he preferred 4 in below the knee or longer. OK, my reaction was wow... I'll try that, I will admit it took a little getting use to after all I'm not really all that tall. My conviction on that changed in time and now that is what I wear, and I love it!!!
*Your reactions break you loose from your social inhibitions and manifest who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level. WOW!!! That hits home right??? Remember the saying, "your walk talks and talk talks but walk talks louder than your talk talks."? Well, this shows through your reactions!!!
*The heart is filled with thoughts, and it is out of that reservoir of thoughts that the mouth speaks words of praise or bitterness.
"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh" Luke 6:45 Do you curse? Do you say things you scream and yell at your kids for saying? You know as a wife you have to change this. As a mother you HAVE to change this. It's not so much I will to stop this but changing your thought life!!
Proverbs 23:7 "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he...."
Matthew 15:19 "For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts...."
Philippians 2:5 "Let this mind be in you, which is also in Christ Jesus"
Romans 12:2 "...transformed by the renewing of your mind...."
God is showing us how we need to think, react, and do as a wife, as our husbands Help Meet!
*Your reactions define who you really are inside and what you really believe at your core level!!!!!
*You are what you think and God tells you how to think.
So why don't we do what we know God wants?
Did you know, you ARE what you think? Think truth, think right, then you'll react right! This has nothing to do with the Power of thinking. Stop, Think: *this is the power of the truth as God defines it!!
*No woman will have peace and joy until her mind is filled with goodwill toward her husband.
*Here's a little test:
1. Do you have enough fear of God to not question his word?
2. Do you sometimes feel God is punishing you by telling you to obey your husband?
3. Would you give God excuses like, My husband is mean," or "I am a strong personality, and he is weak?"
4. How would you respond if God gave you directions on how to talk, when not to talk, or how to dress and even wear your hair?
5. Are you comfortable with dismissing the Bible's role for women by saying we live in a different culture?
6. When God says to reverence (meaning, stand in awe of) your husband, do you think that is demanding too much?
7. Will you say, "If God say it, or even suggest it, then that is what I will do"?
Make sure when your walk talks that it's speaking the truth from your heart which would be one of seeking God's wisdom, understanding and appreciating your man, and being a flexible wife!
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 9 of 24
Do you put your life into your husbands? Did you know we are to be his comfort, a blessing, rewarding, a friend (best friend), an encouragement even his right-hand wo-man!
If I was to ask you how many of these things did you make sure you did and were through 2010 how many would you say? ALL? 1/2? 1? None? You _____, are his WIFE! You ______, are to be his BEST FRIEND! Yes, as women we have best friends that are girls However the best friend of best friends is to be who? YOUR HUSBAND the man whom you are to be his HELP MEET.
Memories that matter! What kind of memories do you make with your husband? Are they good memories or memories that are hurtful and painful for you and him?!
*God made us women to be help meets!
Did you know that when God created Eve she wasn't to be his partner but his HELP MEET!!! We were created to fulfill the need of our HUSBAND!! We are not partners, marriage isn't a business deal it's Biblical and made of God.
*God is not looking for happy women to make then into help meets for men. He is looking for women willing to be true help meets, so he can fill them full of joy!!
If you aren't' willing to be his Help Meet, as a woman you need to get into God's word and learn how to be the Help Meet God wants you to be. Make Memories with your mate! We need to be the Help Meet we are meant to be. Whey? Because it is so vitally important for our Marriages!!!
I Corinthians 11:8-9 "I will make him an help meet for him." Paul said, "For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man."
Genesis 3:16 "Unto the woman he said...and they desire shall be to thy HUSBAND, and he shall rule over thee."
As the woman of the house make good memories with your hubby! He is YOUR man no other woman has the right to make good memories with him!
One of my favorite things to say is, "2 became 1 through marriage then we became 7 as the Lord gave us 5 children" I know it doesn't really rhyme but that's ok. I'm Bill's Help Meet I'm here with MY MAN and we have lots of wonderful memories.
What memories will you make with your husband in 2011???
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
If I was to ask you how many of these things did you make sure you did and were through 2010 how many would you say? ALL? 1/2? 1? None? You _____, are his WIFE! You ______, are to be his BEST FRIEND! Yes, as women we have best friends that are girls However the best friend of best friends is to be who? YOUR HUSBAND the man whom you are to be his HELP MEET.
Memories that matter! What kind of memories do you make with your husband? Are they good memories or memories that are hurtful and painful for you and him?!
*God made us women to be help meets!
Did you know that when God created Eve she wasn't to be his partner but his HELP MEET!!! We were created to fulfill the need of our HUSBAND!! We are not partners, marriage isn't a business deal it's Biblical and made of God.
*God is not looking for happy women to make then into help meets for men. He is looking for women willing to be true help meets, so he can fill them full of joy!!
If you aren't' willing to be his Help Meet, as a woman you need to get into God's word and learn how to be the Help Meet God wants you to be. Make Memories with your mate! We need to be the Help Meet we are meant to be. Whey? Because it is so vitally important for our Marriages!!!
I Corinthians 11:8-9 "I will make him an help meet for him." Paul said, "For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man."
Genesis 3:16 "Unto the woman he said...and they desire shall be to thy HUSBAND, and he shall rule over thee."
As the woman of the house make good memories with your hubby! He is YOUR man no other woman has the right to make good memories with him!
One of my favorite things to say is, "2 became 1 through marriage then we became 7 as the Lord gave us 5 children" I know it doesn't really rhyme but that's ok. I'm Bill's Help Meet I'm here with MY MAN and we have lots of wonderful memories.
What memories will you make with your husband in 2011???
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 8 of 24
The boys are working on their Bible verses so I thought I'd work on our next lesson. I pray you're enjoying these thus far.
Today is having the Wisdom to understand your man.
*A wise woman learns to adapt to her husband.
Did you realize there are 3 kinds of men. When I read this chapter in Debi's book I was like, WOW!! But as you and I think of it there are different types of men. They are Mr Command Man, Mr Visionary and Mr Steady. We'll touch a little on each one and how we can have the wisdom needed to understand which one our husband is!
*If you fight his inadequacies, both of you will fail. If you love him and support him with his inadequacies and witA hout taking charge, both of you will succeed and grow.
The Key to understanding your husband: *Wisdom is knowing what you "brought" when you married that man, and learning to adapt to him as he is, not as you want him to be.
*God gives imperfect women to imperfect men so they can be heirs together of the grace of life and become something more together than either one of them would ever be alone.
Now's to look at the different types of men and how you may have the wisdom to know how you should be with him.
*It is very important for you to learn how to make an appeal without challenging his authority.
*God is Dominant -- a sovereign and all powerful God. He is also visionary -- omniscient and desirous of carrying out his plans. And, God is steady -- the same yesterday, and today, and forever, our faithful High Priest. Most men epitomize one of these three aspects of God.
A command Man will walk out leaving his wife, he seems to sufficient to himself. If you are married to a command husband you will need to earn your place in his heart by showing him that you will stand by him. You will be faithful, loyal, and obedient, your husband will see you have his confidence. *A King wants a Queen, which is why a man in command wnats a faithful wife to share his fame and glory.
*His vision is like a man looking from a mountaintop; he sees the destant goal. If your husband is saved or unsaved, when he is treated with Honor and reverence, a good hlep meet will find that her man will be wonderfully protective and supportive.
Now is to look at Mr Visionary, *Learn how to be flexible and learn how to always be loyal to your man. God is a Visionary as seen in his person, The Holy Spirit. A visionary is consumed with a need to communicate with his words, music, writing, voice, art or action. He can seem like a voice crying in the wilderness.
*Greatness is a state of soul, not certain accomplishments.
As the wife you need to learn flexiblity and learn how to always be loyal to your husband!
*It will be your face he looks into to see the marvel of what a great thing he has done. When a man is a visionary person, he needs to know he has HIS woman's support!!!
Mr Steady.... *God is as steady as an eternal rock, caring, providing, and faithful, like a priest - like Jesus Christ! *Your husband's gentleness is not a weakness; it is his strength. Your husband's hesitation is not indecision; it is cautious wisdom. *Let him be the one God made him to be: a still, quiet, thoughtful presence-for you!
Know your Man!!
Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man (a wife also) of understanding will draw it out Proverbs 20:5
*Stop trying to stir him up to anger...
*Let him be the one God made him to be; a still, quiet, thoughtful presence - for you!!
To sum it all up:
1. The wife of Mr Command can ruin her marriage by failing to honor, believe, and reverence her husband authority and rule.
2. The wife of Mr Visionary can run her marriage by failing to follow, believe, and participate as an enthusiast in her husband's dreams and visions.
3. The wife of Mr Steady can ruin her marriage by failing to appriciate, wait on, and be thankful for her husbands pleasant qualities.
A successful wife
1. The wife of Mr Command can heal her marriage by becoming his adoring Queen. Honoring, obeying him (reasonable and unreasonable) She will dress, act, and speak so at to bring honor everywhere she goes.
2. The wife of Mr Visionary can heal her marriage by laying aside her own dreams and aspirations and embracing her role as help meet to her man. Believe in him, and be willing to follow him with joyful participation in the path he's chosen.
3. The wife of Mr Steady can heal her marriage by joyfully realizing what a friend, lover, and companion she has been given, living that gratitude, verbally and actively. Stop trying to change him, he will grow. Then you can willing take up tasks that will fill your time and give your husband joy and satisfaction when he sees her productiveness.
*Keep in mind most men are a little of all three types, but tend to be stronger in one.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Today is having the Wisdom to understand your man.
*A wise woman learns to adapt to her husband.
Did you realize there are 3 kinds of men. When I read this chapter in Debi's book I was like, WOW!! But as you and I think of it there are different types of men. They are Mr Command Man, Mr Visionary and Mr Steady. We'll touch a little on each one and how we can have the wisdom needed to understand which one our husband is!
*If you fight his inadequacies, both of you will fail. If you love him and support him with his inadequacies and witA hout taking charge, both of you will succeed and grow.
The Key to understanding your husband: *Wisdom is knowing what you "brought" when you married that man, and learning to adapt to him as he is, not as you want him to be.
*God gives imperfect women to imperfect men so they can be heirs together of the grace of life and become something more together than either one of them would ever be alone.
Now's to look at the different types of men and how you may have the wisdom to know how you should be with him.
*It is very important for you to learn how to make an appeal without challenging his authority.
*God is Dominant -- a sovereign and all powerful God. He is also visionary -- omniscient and desirous of carrying out his plans. And, God is steady -- the same yesterday, and today, and forever, our faithful High Priest. Most men epitomize one of these three aspects of God.
A command Man will walk out leaving his wife, he seems to sufficient to himself. If you are married to a command husband you will need to earn your place in his heart by showing him that you will stand by him. You will be faithful, loyal, and obedient, your husband will see you have his confidence. *A King wants a Queen, which is why a man in command wnats a faithful wife to share his fame and glory.
*His vision is like a man looking from a mountaintop; he sees the destant goal. If your husband is saved or unsaved, when he is treated with Honor and reverence, a good hlep meet will find that her man will be wonderfully protective and supportive.
Now is to look at Mr Visionary, *Learn how to be flexible and learn how to always be loyal to your man. God is a Visionary as seen in his person, The Holy Spirit. A visionary is consumed with a need to communicate with his words, music, writing, voice, art or action. He can seem like a voice crying in the wilderness.
*Greatness is a state of soul, not certain accomplishments.
As the wife you need to learn flexiblity and learn how to always be loyal to your husband!
*It will be your face he looks into to see the marvel of what a great thing he has done. When a man is a visionary person, he needs to know he has HIS woman's support!!!
Mr Steady.... *God is as steady as an eternal rock, caring, providing, and faithful, like a priest - like Jesus Christ! *Your husband's gentleness is not a weakness; it is his strength. Your husband's hesitation is not indecision; it is cautious wisdom. *Let him be the one God made him to be: a still, quiet, thoughtful presence-for you!
Know your Man!!
Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man (a wife also) of understanding will draw it out Proverbs 20:5
*Stop trying to stir him up to anger...
*Let him be the one God made him to be; a still, quiet, thoughtful presence - for you!!
To sum it all up:
1. The wife of Mr Command can ruin her marriage by failing to honor, believe, and reverence her husband authority and rule.
2. The wife of Mr Visionary can run her marriage by failing to follow, believe, and participate as an enthusiast in her husband's dreams and visions.
3. The wife of Mr Steady can ruin her marriage by failing to appriciate, wait on, and be thankful for her husbands pleasant qualities.
A successful wife
1. The wife of Mr Command can heal her marriage by becoming his adoring Queen. Honoring, obeying him (reasonable and unreasonable) She will dress, act, and speak so at to bring honor everywhere she goes.
2. The wife of Mr Visionary can heal her marriage by laying aside her own dreams and aspirations and embracing her role as help meet to her man. Believe in him, and be willing to follow him with joyful participation in the path he's chosen.
3. The wife of Mr Steady can heal her marriage by joyfully realizing what a friend, lover, and companion she has been given, living that gratitude, verbally and actively. Stop trying to change him, he will grow. Then you can willing take up tasks that will fill your time and give your husband joy and satisfaction when he sees her productiveness.
*Keep in mind most men are a little of all three types, but tend to be stronger in one.
*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 7 of 24
Sorry this is being posted late, it's called wonderful Internet problems.... I hope you're enjoying the post and that in some small way it's being a blessing to someone.
We'll on 2 more lessons on Wisdom in our marriage, being a mom and life in general. These are really good lessons and if you are able to get the book will help you as a wife, mom and even friend.
*A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready to hear. She pursues knowledge.
Oh how true the above statements are! I have found when I'm willing to learn, to change, to listen and pursue knowledge my wisdom increases and I things are much better.
Do honor or dis honor your husband? We should not dishonor our husbands. They are meant to be the head of the home and we are to HONOR, an obey them. That is what we promised in our wedding vows.
What did you practice today? Listening? Being willing to change? A learner? Gaining knowledge? Which of these did you do?
*What is God's perfect will for your life? To be a good help meet!!!!
*Make a new habit today! Think of the thing your husband does that irritates you the most. Now say to yourself, "I do not see the whole picture. I don not know what God is doing in my life or my husbands life. My critical attitude is a far graver sin than his bad habits. I am guilty of blaspheming the written Word of God when I do not love and obey my husband. Therefore, I am laying down my campaign against him concerning this issue. And, as far as I am concerned, it is God's business to direct my husband and convict him. I am trusting God."
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
We'll on 2 more lessons on Wisdom in our marriage, being a mom and life in general. These are really good lessons and if you are able to get the book will help you as a wife, mom and even friend.
*A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready to hear. She pursues knowledge.
Oh how true the above statements are! I have found when I'm willing to learn, to change, to listen and pursue knowledge my wisdom increases and I things are much better.
Do honor or dis honor your husband? We should not dishonor our husbands. They are meant to be the head of the home and we are to HONOR, an obey them. That is what we promised in our wedding vows.
What did you practice today? Listening? Being willing to change? A learner? Gaining knowledge? Which of these did you do?
*What is God's perfect will for your life? To be a good help meet!!!!
*Make a new habit today! Think of the thing your husband does that irritates you the most. Now say to yourself, "I do not see the whole picture. I don not know what God is doing in my life or my husbands life. My critical attitude is a far graver sin than his bad habits. I am guilty of blaspheming the written Word of God when I do not love and obey my husband. Therefore, I am laying down my campaign against him concerning this issue. And, as far as I am concerned, it is God's business to direct my husband and convict him. I am trusting God."
*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"
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