Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 6 of 24

Good Morning, I thought while my boys were having a break from their books and enjoying the Wii for a little bit I would start the next lesson. This will cont on with Wisdom, looking at in a different aspect to our marriages and life.

Psalm 111:10 "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom"
Proverbs 9;10 "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom"
Proverbs 1:7 "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of Knowledge"

Notice God mentions "The fear of the Lord" We need heed it, why? God not only said it once but 3 times!! *I feel that if I can cause young wives to be aware that there are consequences to their actions, they may turn to God now and start sowing to the spirit, rather than to the flesh.

*A woman who really knows God will know that true spirituality is obeying God's recorded Word, not cultivating her "spiritual" sensibilities.

Titus 2:3-4 states in part of this verse "...the aged women...teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands...." If you are a young wife you need to pay attention to this, Our elders do know and do have advice for us on how to help our marriages and life. More importantly is they have lived they have learned things. God's word is given to us to live wisely for a reason, to be a godly wife for a reason.

*No woman has ever been happy and fulfilled who neglected to obey God in regard to her role as a help meet.

*He wanted to make her happy, and he was somewhat awed by her other-worldly spiritualism.
Your husband loves you! He wants to do that which will make you happy. Do you encourage that by obeying God OR do you look more to the world??
Are you truly your husbands "helper" OR are you trying to be his conscience. You are to be his help meet and to encourage him and help lift him up, we are not to be his conscience.

Lets make some new habits today:
*When you feel yourself beginning to have a critical spirit, stop, take a deep breath silently ask for wisdom, then think of something that is on your thankful list. This is remolding a habit, and in time, practice makes perfect.

And remember "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of Wisdom"

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 5 of 24

Good Afternoon! I pray that if you are reading each of these post that something somewhere will help in your marriage and that you will possibly order Mrs Debi Pearls book.

Today is about Wisdom in our marriage and life. Do you have enough fear of God not to question his Word? In Titus 2:3-5 We are taught many things, "The aged woman...may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blashemed"

As women we need to be sure we obey our husbands. I love the part of Titus that says to be "keepers at home" we are to be wise in what we do. My husband doesn't expect things to be perfect but he wants a clean home and so do I. As his wife I became a Keeper at home!

If you have to work out of the home you especially need to be wise with your time so you can keep your home. I have had the privilege of being a stay at home mom since my daughter was born in 1991, then we decided I work when my daughter was in her 10th gr yr, which had all 5 of our children in school. After 2 yrs of working I realized that I wasn't being a keeper of the home. I had to make a decision. I had home schooled in the past and after prayer and counseling we decided that in order for me to do what my first priority was I needed to stop working. I will say at first I missed it, but it was the wise decision to make. I again am homeschooling and my home is at it should be. Wisdom was needed in the decision and I believe God helped us in that decision.

As a wife we are to LOVE our husband and children! So now lets see what God's "blueprint" for marriage is.
Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

You know, I've heard people say, NO WAY my husband will not be the head of me!! Did you know this is wrong? Our husbands are to obey the Bible and God and we are to obey God the Bible and our husbands. We are to do this in EVERYTHING! Hard to swallow I know.... If you however have the right kind of relationship with our heavenly Father then we will be able to wisely obey our husbands.

Colossians 3:18 "Wives, submit yourselves unto you husbands, as it is fit in the Lord."
I Corinthians 11:3 "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ: and the head of the woman is the man: and the head of Christ is God."

*1. God commands wives to submit to their OWN husbands.
2. God informs men that they are the head of the wife.
3. God tells the wives to be subject to their husbands in everything, every decision, every move, every plan, and all everyday affairs.

Hey, trust me these 3 steps are NOT always easy to follow. There are days that you will think there is NO way this may is thinking right. BUT as his wife we are to submit to him, do as he ask, let him be a part of everything, every day!! Hard? Yes, but with God's strength and wisdom you CAN do it!!!

I mentioned wisdom at the very beginning did you know it's not something you earn but rather a gift?! Yep, the Bible tells us in James 1:5 "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men (and women) liberally...." *God gives us wisdom liberally, like a "gift" but first we mus ask for it.

This topic is much more detailed in Debi's book. I hope and pray that in some small way it will help you to see HOW important it is that we have wisdom as wives, that we submit to OUR husband, NOT another man, NOT the one who thinks he has control over you, YOUR HUSBAND that is the ONLY man on this earth that you are married to. He is the one you vowed to Honor, Obey till death do you part.

*taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you are meant to be. 4 of 24

*Live with Thanksgiving, forgiveness, and joy, and enjoy all your moments as if they were your last.

*Thanksgiving Produces Joy: Open your mouth and begin to thank God for his grace towards you. Thank him for every good thing that he has brought into your life. Thank him, thank him and thank him again. Joy is the result of a thankful heart. A thankful heart is the result of a person who decides to give thanks. So say,

"Thank you, God for...." Put in there whatever you are thankful for, salvation, your husband, your children, your friends, your family, ect.

Are you a jolly playmate? Did you know you have control over somethings. Such as: I Peter 3:7, ...heirs together of the grace of life... Will your husband have that? You as the wife really do have much more control than you know. Do you and your spouse have fun?

*Because I have known such love and closeness with a man, it makes my understanding of and appreciation for God much deeper.

Love can be fun :) Is your husband your playmate? Do you do things together? Ride bikes, go for walks, enjoy a show together, go out on dates? I have been married 19 yrs and I love to go and do things with my husband. I could say, he's my playmate! If you have this mind set you will be just that: *gift, a playmate, his helper.

*You learn that all of life is fun and needs to be shared with our best friend, playmate and lover.
*When a weak sister fulfills her divine purpose of being a true help meet, it brings great glory and joy to God.
*Being grateful and thankful is the key to spiritual victory.

Be sure you are in your Bible daily and praying daily not just so you have the right kind of walk with God but so that you can be, and learn to be the right kind of wife!
Don't worry about others think in any area: Why? It's really between you and God!!!
*Some people would say I am weak and foolish or extremely co-dependent. What people think is nothing compared to what God thinks.

SO: *The message to you is simple. From this day forth, starting right now - TODAY - be the woman who honors, obeys and loves Jesus, by HONORING YOUR HUSBAND!

*taken from Created to be his Help Meet.

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 3 of 24

Good morning everyone! I hope you're enjoying these post. Please feel free to comment on them also.

Do you have a Thankful Spirit? The spirit we have whether good or bad can and will affect your marriage! You should have a Thankful Spirit no matter what your situation. Don't be a poor me person but a Thank you Lord for what the Holy Spirit has given.

*A wise woman sets a joyful mood in her home. Through laughter, music, and happy times, she creates a positive attitude in her children. She knows that a lighthearted home relieves her husband of stress.

1. Are you a Poor-Me Attitude?
Proverbs 15:15 says, "All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast"
Don't complain about your family's situation, having this Poor-Me attitude is not healthy. *This downcast, un-thankful attitude is a dishonor to God!

*Discontentment is not a product of circumstances; it is the state of the soul.
Did you know, *Thankful people have a view of life that begins somewhere deep in their souls....

*You can practice joy and thanksgiving, Every day, every right response makes the fingers of your soul find the notes of joy and thanksgiving easier and easier.

As Christians and as wives we really need to work on this joy and thankfulness. You know, as a wife, mother, teacher or whatever your responsibilities are, you need to work on this. Are you a complainer do you use words that are too strong in what you are saying? I don't mean cursing, I mean words like hate, kill, ect.... These words are not good to use all the time. As a wife, mother ect they need to NOT be in your vocabulary it can destroy the joy in your home and it shows in some ways lack of thankfulness.
When you feel that things are not going right SMILE and be Thankful!! God has a reason for all things happening!
Colossians 3:15 teaches, "And let the PEACE of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be you thankful."

Have a Thankful Spirit!!!

Consider this:
*Joy is a fruit of the Spirit. If you are a child of God, joy will be a visible reality in your life.
1. Where does your joy start?
2. Have I been discontent about my lot in life? Am I, on occasion a "POOR-ME" person?
3. Do I verbally show thanksgiving every day?
4. Do I daily remember to thank god for my husband?
5. Would my friends describe me as a joyful, thankful and content?
6. How can I add practicing joy and thanksgiving to my life?
7. Am I willing to lay down my grievance toward my husband for the hope of a heavenly marriage?

If you go to the book of Philippians it teaches us how we can be a woman of God! Phil 4:6 tells us, "be careful for nothing"
When I read be careful for nothing we need to not worry, fret, or add trouble to our lives. Assuming that this will happen, this person will say this or that, or whatever we worry and fret about we DON"T need to do! God gives us the strength we need to be a Woman of God.

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 2 of 24

Good Morning all :) In reading Chapter 2 it speaks of having a Merry Heart that the Joy of the Lord is my strength.
Proverbs 17:22 "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine." The importance of a merry heart will help in our marriages. If your marriage is struggling start rebuilding by recreating the Merry heart in your own life first!

*When he first fell in love with you, you were a sweet little thing, full of laughter and fun.

My question to you is: Do you still have that laughter and are still full of fun?? If your husband was asked how you are today and how you were when you met, what would he say?
So, *Is he still married to the same sweet little thing, have you become a long-faced, sickly complainer?

Prov 15:13 "A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance...."
Did you know when you smile people are more likely to come to you than when you walk around looking mad or upset with the world?!
This applies to your hubby also. If you give him those mischievous grins that are only meant for him he'll want to be with you! How many yrs have you been married and does your hubby want to come home or would he rather be at work???

*Men are highly attracted to smiles. That includes your husband!!

Are you a desperate wife wanting your husband back?? Not that he's left you through divorce but in that he seems to look at other women more than at you.
Song of Solomon 8:6 "...for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath most vehement flame"

Do what you can to let him know that you love him show him through smiles and your winsome personality that won your husband in the first place!! *Never demand that a man love you and cherish you because he ought to. Earn every smile land shared moment.
*God stands with you when you stand by your man.

Psalm 100
"Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all ye lands., Serve the Lord with gladness: come before his presence with singing. Know ye that the Lord he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture. Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name. For the Lord is good; his mercy is everlasting; and his truth endureth to all generations"

*taken from "Created to be his Help Meet"

Being the Help Meet you were meant to be. 1 of 24

Good Morning, Twice a yr I have this one book I read that was given to me and this will be my 5th time reading it. You say, what book other than the Bible would you read over an over? Well, it's Called "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl

The first time I read the book, I was thinking there's no way anyone can do all this. WRONG it is possible with the right mind set and not just following this book but the Bible. I thought since I have started reading it again I would share a little each day from the chapter I read which will include scriptures also.

God's Gift : *If God created a special woman, perfectly suited to be your husband's helper, would you be that woman?
Did you know, *"When you are a help meet to your husband, you are a helper to Christ."
Proverbs 18:22 (KJB) Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
Wow! We as wives are a "good thing" can imagine that through all our faults, bad breath and so on and so forth we are a good thing for our husbands! It's true we are!
*A woman trying to function like a man is as ridiculous as a man trying to be like a woman."

Proverbs 31 Who can find a virtuous woman for her price is far above rubies.
We are the ruby God has for the man you are to marry (are married too).
We are the "good thing' in his life!

*Taken from "Created to be His Help Meet"

Do it heartily.....

Colossians 3:23 "And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men."

What will you do with this yr? Will you do whatever you please not caring if the Lord is honored or pleased? Will you do to get from God OR will you do for God?

As new Christians we alot of times start off doing for the Lord for what we receive. We should grow though and get to where we do, what we do For God! Yes there are benefits in serving in God but we should want to praise, honor, worship, learn and grow in Christ so we can become more Christ like.

I don't do New Yrs resolutions those are basically meant to be broken. I do however tell the Lord I want to go to the next level. What is the next level in your Christian life you want to improve in 2011?

As you think of this keep in mind that: "...whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, unto the Lord, and not unto men."